Men have to earn women respect when trying to date her, what about women getting the man's respect ?

Question

If a guy has to show he can support her - a future family,take her out and pay every time or until they start dating(which is usually 3 to 5 consecutive times of men paying for the whole date. TO GET HER RESPECT- GET FREAKY WIT HER- FINALLY GET TO DATE HER...... Why don't women do the same to get the man respect ? In these times women can and are breadwinners too. Women want s*x just as much as guys. Guy make HER earn your respect too. Make her give and much as you do. Don't get be a doormat. Don't let her be a taker, make her reciprocate not when you start dating...No... start the second date assuming the guy pay the first date. What do y'all think ?

Answer 1

I don't like the giving up part. I never like to look at being with someone as a sacrifice.

I like the rest of what you said though, as it does make sense. I think most people do go into relationships realizing that it's not just about finances, but about support in general. Sometimes things happen (like my BF is laid off as of January 1, 2009), and you have to pull together to get back on track.

No one wants to be a doormat or a pushover in a relationship. But it's not about one controlling the other, it's about respect. Once you lose that, all bets are off - money or no money.

Answer 2

we have to respect men too and to do that we must not play the S****y , clingy woman who cannot be independent on her own,for a relationship to work both must be equal and see the other person as equal and we should also pay the bills too.

Answer 3

Good luck keeping a woman with this theory.

Answer 4

Because men know women do not respect them, so why bother. Generally a man is interested in different things than a woman anyway but women do not understand this. Besides most men are quite happy if a date ends in s*x. They don't care about respect.

Answer 5

Project much?

"make HER ... Make her... make her..."

I'll bet the ladies are breaking the door down to get to you

NOT.

Answer 6

First let's define respect.  Respect does not equal courtesy.  Lack of courtesy equals disrespect, but courtesy doesn't equal respect.  We aren't talking about courtesy.  We are talking about respect.  True respect is to believe and trust someone with your life.  To know that if you give your will to that person, then everything will turn out alright.  Men just don't do that with the women in their lives.  Women do that with their husbands though.

To answer your question, it's about the language of worth that each gender speaks.  Men give respect openly, just as women give love openly.  It's actually the way we communicate worth to one another.  Think about how you communicate that your buddy is important to you.  You slap him on the back.  You think about the good things that he does. You compliment him on his achievements.  You are proud of him.  But you don't love him.  Why not?  It's because men don't communicate value with love.

Women on the other hand do communicate value with love.  Women think about how their girlfriends make them feel.  They don't automatically compliment their girlfriends on their achievements.  They begin with feelings that give well, I hate to say it, but superficial value.  I love your hair.  That dress is beautiful.  Those earrings are gorgeous!  And as relationships develop they become less superficial.  You make me feel good.  Women do not however automatically respond to someone's value in terms of respect.  They might develop respect over time, but it's not as immediate as it is for a man.

Before a guy even asks a girl out he's going to respect her in some way.  So she doesn't need to earn it.  She already has it.

**By the way, this is why God commands men to love their wives without telling men to respect them.  And it is why women are commanded to respect their husbands and are not commanded to love him.  It's because men already respect their wives and women already love their husbands.

Answer 7

I agree with you one hundred percent. Thank you, sir, for your stance on this matter! I refuse to have anything to do with women who don't get it as we do. As you could guess, I have very little to do with most women, even though a lot of my friends are female. Women need to respect US as much as we respect THEM. It's got to be fair and too often it's not. I could go into a tirade about how and why but I know you already know just as much as I do. Besides its 3:13 my time and I want to head to bed, lol.

Edit: SmartAlex has some good points.

Answer 8

I'm totally with you but this is the fault of men who have placed women on such a pedestal for so long that they feel like their coolil is gold; it ain't.  It's us men who continue to make women's heads bigger by the day and so they just eat it up.  As soon as men stop making women feel like their coolil is made of gold and we can pay for coolil with no strings, then they'll show more respect to men.  Otherwise they'll feel that there is this sense of entitlement which they've earned when they haven't earned a thing.  We men are to blame for placing these money-grubbing women on pedestals.  Now is the time we have to just draw the line in the sand and say, eff it.  Either you give up the coolil right quick and free, or I'll go buy one that's even better.  We are men and don't need to be ashamed of being men.

Answer 9

You do that!  

Answer 10

Isn't it up to a man to determine weather she's a respectable woman or not before hitting on her?

Answer 11

Money does not equal respect....do you really think you are getting 3-5 dates (seems a bit easy to me) and s*x because you are paying?  What are you doing, dating a w***e?