Men- how do you behave when a woman is dressed "S****y?"?

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The same argument that comes up time and time again here is "why would you dress like a s**t if you want to be treated with respect?"

It's a pretty foreign concept to me, because how I treat someone has a lot more to do with how they treat me and others than it does with what they're wearing.

So, men, how does your behavior change when you encounter a woman dressed "S****y"? Do you shout obscenities at her? Make an overtly sexual remark?

Answer 1

I think I treat women with respect they give to me. I don't see them as magical creatures that are sooo different from guys. We're all human. In a free country we have a right to dress the way they want to and feel. I'd give the proper respect as long as they give it back to me. I'd never treat a girl badly b/c of what she's wearing.

Answer 2

Only a fool would wear a short skirt and skimpy top to a basketball game, and expect men to treat her with respect.

A woman who wears revealing clothes wants to tease men. She is saying "See guys ... see what you can possibly have if you do want it want."

Answer 3

I might check her out more(darn programing lol), but depending on the setting(if it was at a party or something I might let it slide) might depend how serious I would take her.

      If it was an every day pattern it would send red flags up.

I wouldn't make remarks or anything(unless I knew her and was joking around) but I wouldn't think highly of her either.

    Then again if it was a rare occurrence( nothing wrong with dressing up or down lol once in a while)  it would be acceptable.

Some might say it would be done of my business, they would be right.

Remember one thing though, how we present ourselves is the first impression strangers see of us.

Answer 4

My behaivor doesn't change when there's someone like that nearby.

I don't care.

Answer 5

i just look at her and admire her hot bod. but i dont make any comments. for what? i know darn well that she is not dressing that way because she wants to sleep with me. she is dressing that way to get attention and to feel s**y. so i dont say anything. i just admire her from afar.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

There is a saying which means " the letter shows from it's address " . which simply means that the goal ; hidden or clear shows from the signs . so if you see a woman dressed like a nun ; you will show her your deep respect and trust , but if you saw a woman wearing shorts and no bra , you may persue intimacy with her , because the signs for you are clear . she wants someone . for men ; it is her subconcious that leads her to wear what she is wearing . and it reflects her real self even if she didn't realize it .

Answer 8

I look but don't stare. I think that’s all it really warrants.

Answer 9

The clothing you wear is (willy-nilly) a signal.  A woman who wears crotchless panties and a skirt short enough to make the crotchlessness of her panties evident is clearly signalling "Do me immediately."  This is NOT routine costume I speak of, but is that equivalent in garb of 'warpaint.'  It's unsubtle costuming that declares patently that the girl wants it.  

So, how do I react to that, in those milieux where I see that sort of thing?

I stand off, usually, but there have been a few exceptional situations where I took the signal at face value, i.e., I read it as "Hey, Sailor, come over here."  

However, I'm most often uninterested in casual mindless s*x with strange women.  If that lass in 's**t dress' is a stranger, I allow her to remain a stranger.  I don't enjoy being viewed solely as a sexual object any more than you do, and the 's**t dress' signals that to me;  I'm just a lengthy piece of meat to that one.   A d***o-ersatz, me?   Not tonight, thanks, and good hunting, Miss.

But if the s**t-apparent is a girl I know,  I move in a bit, to ask a few questions.  She might not be so dressed for me, I am well aware; she might simply be horny, and looking for a hook-up, and I would not wish to get in her way.  "Hi, Patty, looking for Mr. Big Weenie tonight, or am I gonna get lucky?" for instance.  Depending on the answer, I move closer or I move further away.  I'd expect the same courtesy from her, when I wear my sexual warpaint.

It has happened that I've had a good time in friendly conversation with 'Patty' until 'some guy' showed up.  I run her through 'The Inductive Reason Game,' and record her performances until 'Some guy' shows up.  The arrival of 'Some guy' requires only that I bookmark the IRG, a minor clerical operation.  

'Some guy' takes her away, and she reports later that he was a premature nose-picker, among other prematurities.  But she did get her ashes hauled, and so is much more relaxed in our later conversations.  She's not so distracted, and engages the subject matter more closely.

Will 'Patty' ever get to know the thrill of my touch? The taste of my tongue? Et? Cetera?

Yeah, she will, but only after she finally wins a game of Scrabble against me.  It could happen.

Answer 10

We all are largely judged by our body language.  And that includes how we dress.  People make instant decisions about others in the first few seconds, then take more time to see if they were right or wrong.

Not fair but that's how it works.  Answer-a human being is a human being.  Being one, I'd look but treat her with respect.

Answer 11

I would show her the same amount of respect that I would if I was dating a librarian.

Answer 12

I feel a bit annoyed and curious about her sometimes, seeing it as a manner to garner attention. Other times I feel saddened for he, wondering what has brought her to dress in a manner that invites dehumanizing from people who lack decent behavior skills.

I try to look at my own emotional responses and see where my own reactions and instincts are. I try to see where I am being overly critical in light of cultural developments. I try to see if my responses come from concern, attraction, frustration, annoyance, or simple lack of caring. I then take these and ask myself how these relate to the person beyond just the manner they dress.

I notice how others look at her, and if I interact with her, I behave in the same manner I would regardless of how she is dressed, giving her no more or less attention for it.

And I believe this is how all should respond. It's about the person, not how short her skirt is or how high her heels are.

Answer 13

Hey johno... I am a librarian and I dress S****y.  Sorry I do and love every minute of it... look all you want you guys... Most of you wouldn't give me the time of day two years ago when I was fat.... but now...I don't give YOU the time of day!!!!!!!