Men... if your woman had severe health worries...?

Question

Would you rather she kept her worries to herself or share and be a shoulder to cry on?

Answer 1

It must bother you,you act as if it is a burden to you ,if thats the way you feel you need to go down the road,dont seem like you are much of a shoulder to cry on.

Answer 2

if you have a lasting loving relationship you should share everything

Answer 3

told her worries to somebody else, but not me. see. make a hybrid of both idea. she should tell one of her close friends. but don't let her man worry too. at least try and be strong for him.

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Answer 4

Sweetheart you do need to tell him if you are worrying about something, I am sure he will help in what ever you are worrying about and if it a health problem if you have not already go and see your GP asap.

Worry only magnifies any problem, one other thing I noticed there was an answer from someone who said Doctors do not understand peoples problems, well ignore that because simply it is not true, that is what they are trained to do  

Answer 5

definitely share. the relation with your spouse should always be based on sharing the joy and the sorrow alike. its what strengthens your bond.

Answer 6

I believe she should share her worries.  Communication is the key to a good relationship.  Without it you'll just be two strangers occupying the same apartment.  If she keeps it to herself how can she continue to be your best friend.  In my mind, best friends tell each other almost everything--or at least enough so that both people feel they know one another.  Without friendship there will just be lust and after awhile that will fade as there are many other women around to lust after.  If she has a problem I would prefer to know.  No one should have to suffer in silence without the proverbial "shoulder to cry on."

Answer 7

I'm a woman and I have no clue why I answer questions stated 'men'!

Anyway, I think you should tell him your worries.

If he freaks out or acts like an idiot who refuses to listen + share your concern - ditch him.

I suspected I had PCOS (a problem with the ovaries), I had all the symptoms and hadn't had a period for over 2 years. I had been with my fiance (we were just boyfriend + girlfriend at this point) for just over a year.

I was too afraid to go to the doctors because I didn't like the sounds of any tests.

The more research I did on PCOS, the more I realised that yes, I probably do have it and yes, I need to get help with it.

As I did more reasearch, I became so anxious over everything. I got tense when speaking to my fiance because I wanted to tell him my worries. I find it difficult to talk to my mum about problems "down below".

I was about to go for a well-needed doctors appointment when I told my fiance I was heading into town with a few girlfriends, then suddenly I just blurted out everything I was worried about, from the actual disease, to the chances of infertility, to the absent periods. In the end, we went to the doctors together.

Even though I have been diagnosed with PCOS, telling my fiance was such a weight off my shoulders.

Now we talk about everything - and that is the way relationships are supposed to be.

I am glad I don't have to make appointments to the doctors and then lie to him and say I am going out with friends.

The chances of us having a baby naturally are very slim as I do have ovaries with small cysts, however, we can talk about this as adults.

If I do concieve naturally, it is more likely I will have a miscarriage, if this happens, I know I will feel comfortable speaking to my fiance about it.

If I hadn't of told my boyfriend, I think I would of gone insane - literally.

I understand 100000% if you are embarrassed about the worry, or you are scared and nervous, it is normal. If your boyfriend loves you, he will be your shoulder to cry on and your tower of support.

Even if your health scare turns out to be just that - a false alarm, at least you have opened that "barrier" of communication.

Answer 8

Some men run a mile when problems arise. They just don't want to know. Other men who are more caring, loving will want you to tell them so they can help you get through it and will be a shoulder to cry on.

Answer 9

If she is a hypochondriac, I think she needs to quit worrying herself until she finds out for sure something is wrong