Men... is it true the more your partner is unavailable the more you desire them?

Question

sounds like a childish question but i just wondered because, i think my man might be taking me for granted.....

Answer 1

As you are in the married section then I think it would be odd to attempt to play hard to get!!!!!  No - its not possible but what is possible:-

Carry on doing your own things, learning new things and building yourself up.  Self confidence and someone who is able to take care of themselves is more attractive than some door mouse who relies on their partner for everything.  Its truly unsexy to be cast as the person who has to be there for everything.

Answer 2

I think there is an element of truth in it yes. I think it plays on our inner insecurities when a partner doesn't pay us attention so we then try harder to get it, this then sometimes drives them further away. I suppose then you can do the same to see if that swaps the situation  (turning off the tap) but its a dangerous game to play.

Have you talked about this with him? (sorry I don't mean to patronise you)

Answer 3

Yes to an extent,

Recently though, this girl went too far (She only admitted she liked me when she had a bit to drink and didn't want to be alone) and i just lost all interest and enthusiasm for her.

Be careful

Answer 4

True.

Every time I leave for work I know I will not see the woman I love for at least 28 days, any time I am alone at work I think of her, when I go to bed I think of her, when I wake up I think of her. I am away at the moment.

Answer 5

It is true that absense does make the heart grow fonder. My wife has been away at her parents for the last 3 weeks and we're missing each other like crazy! This is the first time we've been apart since we got married 5 years ago, we're planning to do the same thing again in a year or 2...keeps us on our toes.

We all take our partners for granted and only realise that after we have been apart, so maybe thats what you need- time away from each other. Now I'm not saying you should do 3-4 weeks like I have, but start off with a weekend?

Answer 6

I think that would be a wrong way to address your problem. And I believe it is a manipulative way of getting what you want. If your man is taking you for granted then let him know that and also let him know that you wont tolerate that - but without making it sound like warning - And if he does not heed even after that then you may start thinking of distancing with him - all this time not hating him but only disliking his habits -

Avoiding him or depriving him of your support/company without properly letting him know how you are feeling would only make the matters worse in the long term. so don't do it for revenge but do only it if its necessary and the only way to go