Men only--is it innocent for a married man to email a woman every day?

Question

I have been caught up in a frenzy, relying upon this guy's emails (emails with slight joking, very slight flirting & talking about current events) and he does innocently flirt with me. I can tell he is attracted to me, so I've turned down two lunch invitations he made a long time, with of those invitations being with one of our coworkers, also. This guy has no other female friends but me and he is my only male friend. We work together. I'm so infatuated with him, but thankfully due to my morals, I back off, as does he from moving towards anything. We've known each other for about 8 months. There is no reason to tell him to back off, because he isn't pushy & we aren't doing anything wrong. But, it hurts me to know things will go nowhere with him because he is married. If nothing happens and we continue to email, do you think things will stay safe? We are good people with nothing inappropriate said. He seems happily married, too. Should I tell him to back off because I'm afraid of my feelings for him?

Answer 1

DEPEND ON U BABY ,WHAT U WANTS.

Answer 2

If you were to say he lived in California & you lived in New York, I would say it is fine.  But the two of you work together, he is married & flirting with you.  I'd say this is a problem waiting to happen.  You should back off before it goes any further & someone gets hurt, you him his wife or everyone.

Answer 3

In my opinion, he is getting all he wants by having your attention, you on the other hand possibly are also enjoying the attention and so now you have to be careful not to let down your gaurd and morals, it would probably take very little to convince him to take that little step into your waiting arms. I think you will find any married amn would love to have the attention of a younger pretty lady, but it is in your power so becareful how you use it.... if it stays at this level then it is mutual enjoyment.... tread carefully you know you are in control.... or if you so wish take the plunge... but prepare to come undone...

Answer 4

By saying to back off because you "are afraid of your feelings" for him is being a hypocrite. If you truly have morals you would not say something like that in the hopes of seeing if he will reciprocate those feelings and hook up with you.

If you are truly a person with morals, you will end contact with him simply by not responding to his emails and letting him get the hint and back off. If you do not do this and continue to have "hopes" of something more, you will get exactly what a person with no integrity asks for.......someone with no integrity......and a lot of pain. And at that point you will deserve it.

Answer 5

You can have fond feelings for and enjoy a mans company without any sexual reasons, men can be just good friends as well as women.

Try to keep your feelings to yourself, stay friends but occupy your mind by looking elsewhere for a partner for your sexual & emotional needs.  

Answer 6

it really depends on you, you are in control of your own lives. Honestly it doesnt seem like you're doing anything wrong, flirting isnt a big deal, cheating is. You just gotta be careful. If you dont think you can keep your emotions in check then yes you should back off. Dont get your heart broken over someone who is already taken. You gotta find your own limits. Dont tell him to back off because he could think you guys are just having fun and if you tell him it may ruin whatever kind of friendship you have, if you dont feel you can handle it then you should just back off and try and spend less time with him.

Answer 7

This doesn't sound innocent to me. He sounds interested in you and very slight flirting could lead to something more. Yes I think you should tell him to back off, you have feelings for another woman's husband.  

Answer 8

This depends on how in control of the situation you are.

Let's assume he decided to hit on you.  Well then the relationship becomes inappropriate and you stop contact with him.

Until then, I'd say enjoy the friendship.  Unless you are afraid you couldn't turn him down if he did hit on you.  In that case I'd keep it more distant.

Don't be afraid of your feelings, but know that the odds are astronomical of you having a real future with this man.  So don't blow those feelings out of proportion either.

Regardless of what you do w/this guy, I think the best solution is for you to get out there and find somebody of your own to date.

Answer 9

I think it's completely innocent from HIS perspective.

You so wish it wasn't though, don't you!

If you're so afraid of your feelings for him, then you need to back off.

Don't announce it, just do it.

Answer 10

NOPE! dont talk to him yo