Men: why doing houseworks and childbearing make you feel less manly?

Question

while it's something that's suppose to make you look more masculine, out of heroic value for helping out the women?

i'm asking this coz there're more working women than men who really take at least 1/2 of the housechores and child care responsibility in a marriage.

Answer 1

But women who go out to work are SUPPOSED to do all the housework, childcare etc as well.  Read 'The Feminine Mystique' by Betty Friedan, and you will see that her contention is that housework is so easy it can be done in an hour or so, and therefore women need to go out and get jobs to occupy their time, and whisk through the housework when they come home without bothering their husbands at all.

Men have naturally embraced this attractive feminist philosophy, why wouldn't they?  Why wouldn't men prefer to have wives who earn money and do all the housework, childcare etc as well?  why would they want to change the status quo?  

Answer 2

for me housework doesnt make me feel less manly, i work as a cleaner for a couple of years, i just like housework because its boring, and my standards of hygiene are quite low, so i dont feel the need to do it often

btw i live at home and my mum and sister do all the cleaning, even my bedroom :)

Answer 3

It does not make me less manly, it makes me more of a real man by helping the woman i love, we both work  full time and it is Fair to split home work 50/50, i would not have it any other way.

Answer 4

i think you ment child rearing because it should be pretty obvious why a man getting pregnant and giving birth would make them feel like less then a man

Men don't like doing house work and try to get out of doing it, its not that it makes you feel like less of a man

I love raising my kids, its a lot of fun so you can't say all men don't do it

Answer 5

Men have a very low boredom threshold, this makes us unsuitable for housework, nothing to do with being manly.

Answer 6

Its because you married a stereotype.

I really dont care what people think...

Answer 7

To be honest with you, I've never heard of that belief before.  

Answer 8

Women like to go on and on about men not understanding them. Now, I'm going to tell you ladies something you won't like, but it's true, so tough: Women do not understand men.

Just thought I'd let you ladies in on it. You don't.

But there is good news. With an open mind, both men and women can learn to understand each other because we're much more alike than different.

Answer 9

I never felt that way.  I didn't mind changing my son's diaper once I got used to it.  I stayed home 6 months (I was in a transition) & took care of him.  I loved it and felt like John Lennon.  

Answer 10

Ummm... Men cant share half of the responsiblity of childbearing, they lack the proper equipment.

Answer 11

It doesn't.  I just don't like doing some of it.  But I will do it.  I'd like to avoid washing dishes though.  For whatever reason, I absolutely despise washing dishes.  Otherwise, I'll do any housework.  

Answer 12

It's just something that comes natural to women. Women are the gatherer's the nuture''s and the child-bearer's. Men are the worker's,the hunter's the protector's. Don't get me wrong if you live in a houshold where both people work the houshold chores should be split up, but no different than they used to be. Women should coo if they want or men if they want. Women should take car of the ids and the man shoud fix the car. You get what I am saying?  

Answer 13

Ditto... As long as I don't have to do dishes I am happy. I take care of my babies.

Answer 14

You know my dad is in his 70's.  Unlike many people raised in my generation, my mother worked, as did my father.  They are both retired now and have been married 57 years.  My dad has always done at least half of the housework and half of the childcare.  My mom has always worked outside in the yard, mowing and pruning.  I never expected anything else as that is what is normal to me.  My dad is very manly and never has worried about how others saw him.  He held a high professional position and was and still is very respected in his field.  He was also a fantastic dad, and obviously a great husband.