Men with kids, please help?

Question

I got pregnant at nineteen and ruined by body.well, it's not ruined but sometimes it feels that way. I got stretch marks and gained a lot of weight. My boyfriend admitted that It disgusted him once my breast finally shrunk from D's back to B's. Now that I lost the weight and my stretch marks are faded, I still feel insecure with being naked around him. It pretty much screwed me up. What I want to know is... Did you feel the same way when your wife's body changed?

Answer 1

thats a shame.  i'm old fashioned, primitive and not the nicest guy in the world but how could i treat my wife like that after she just gave me the most important thing in the world?

that's a total lack of maturity, class and love.  you seem to be concerned enough with your appearance that you will get it back the way it was before.  

HE NEEDS TO GROW UP, be a man and take care of his lady and child.

  

Answer 2

im not married but when my babys mom had our daughter

it didnt really matter what she looked like

Answer 3

No.  You love a person for who they are.  If he can't accept the changes to your body, that he helped cause, he needs to grow the h**l up.  

Answer 4

It is all about love and decency towards one another .  My lady is 43 and as pretty as they come ... and we have been together for 5 yrs now .  However , 2 yrs into the relationship she was diagnosed with a disease that forced her on daily medication that she will need to take for the rest of her life .  The side affect of this medication is weight gain and sexual disfunction .  She is now probably 50 lbs heavier then she was for the first 2 yrs of our relationship .  Causing all kinds of issues .  Large everything .  Stretch marks , cottage cheese , sagginess , etc ....  But it is not her fault .  I really love the woman .

So the act of hurting her gentle heart is a bridge that I will never cross .

Sounds like your man crossed that bridge ... you know the rest of that story ... ?

Answer 5

My husband thinks I'm hotter after the baby. Mostly cuz I'm only 10 lbs heavier and its all in my butt. But I had streach marks before. And if your man is saying insensitve things about your body tell him to shut up or you'll start giggling every time he takes his underpants off!

Answer 6

I'm not a man but I would like to comment anyway.

My first husband said those things to me and it hurt me for the rest of our doomed marriage and it carried over to my new marriage years later and my husband now gives me all the compliments in the world and he loves me beyond beauty and would never say anything less than "you are beautiful" to me.  Sounds like your husband is self centered and obviously has no regard to you or your feelings.  How sad!