Mens sexual health problem ?

Question

My boyfriend has trouble in the bedroom, in that he comes so quickly.

It really does not bother me because i love him to pieces but it distresses him so much that he will stress about it every second of the day saying that he is not a real man and that he cant satisfy me.

Nothing i say helps at all, we have amazing s*x but this is causing big problems in our relationship because he stews about everything and then pushes me away.

I know he is super stressed about work so for now i have left him so he can sort his head out, its heart breaking but he wont let me help him?

Please help.x

Answer 1

this sucks, there are a few ways that he can last longer, but if it doesn't matter to you it shouldn't matter to him

it seems that he cares more about his p***s than he does you, and that is what is breaking you two up...you are doing all you can, but he can try to go slowly when having s*x, or to try thinking about something else...otherwise its his own insecurity and it seems like nothing will change it...he is basically saying that your opinion doesn't even matter...

Answer 2

they the stop and go method, right before you ejaculate, STOP! Put your hands down, or put them behind your head, so you don't ejaculate. Let your erection get just a little soft, and then start again, and once again, right before you ejaculate, STOP. Do this at least four times, this is usual used for masturbation, but it should work for him.

Answer 3

Been in a similar situation so I know how he feels.

Two issues... one he has a false expectation of s*x most likely. That the guy is suppose to be some superhero in bed that goes non-stop for 45mins making his woman scream uncontrollably the entire time with UNCOUNTABLE orgasms. That adds stress...

The other, he really wants to please you and he feels as though he is failing in that area. "Most" guys want to please their woman and finishing too fast doesn't exactly fit the "pleasing" profile. ;-)

Try slowing things down a little... make foreplay last longer to help calm him down a bit (a lot has to do with excitement). The start-stop method works but is kinda frustrating for the first two weeks depending on how often you have to stop...

If all else fails... let him finish and let the sensitivity lessen before you start stimulating him again to get him aroused (2-3mins). He should be able to go longer the second time around.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Next time before you have s*x:

1: he can m********e

2: give him oral or hand job

Then he will last longer... or atleast thats what i've heard. Also can depend on age or maybe he's going to fast. It could be a bunch of things.

Answer 5

i would honestly just say hey listen you know i love you i don't know what the h**l i have to say or do to prove it to you ,and say it doesn't bother me at all and you are making me a bit uncomfortable as you keep making me try to tell you that their is not a problem and he just needs to relax . and say flat out if it bothered you ,that you would not have seen him again so stop it and understand . it sounds firm but you need him to get it in his head otherwise it will not get better

Answer 6

just try to get him to relax