Mental Sexual Frustration

Question

I have problem that has upset me for years. I am 21yrs old.. I have yet to lose my virginity.. Not because I have not had the chance.. Ive have been offered plenty of times..this is where the big ordeal comes in.. I am fine whenever I am receiving oral s*x or anything else..but when it comes to intercourse.. its like my p***s just decides to go flacid.. no matter how bad i want whats in front of me.. i cant get my erection back.. like I said..this is the only time this problem occurs... it really freaks me out and makes me uncomfortable the next time i am about to have s*x with a girl.. I dont know whats wrong with me.. should I seek a doctor for help..or is there something I am doing wrong.. or Mental anguish? Please somebody.. I need serious help before I wind up alone forever..

Answer 1

Are you 21 year old men and you say you are Virgin! ?

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Answer 2

I THINK IT IS POSSIBLE TO BE A MENTAL THING... BUT YES... GO SEE A DOCTOR AND EXPLAIN TO HIM EXACTLY WHAT YOU JUST SAID.. THERE MAY BE SOMETHING HE CAN DO!!

ALSO... IF IT IS THE RIGHT GIRL, YOUR SPOUSE? PRAY ABOUT IT... s*x IS A BEAUTIFUL THING BETWEEN A MAN AND WIFE!

IF SHE ISN'T YOUR WIFE... GOD COULD BE TELLING YOU THAT YOU NEED TO WAIT!!!

Answer 3

you need to relax, oh and you are not a virgin, you said you had oral s*x

Answer 4

A frequent cause of erectile dysfunction in younger males is an atypical masturbatory style, particularly masturbating in the prone (face down) position.  This is a troublesome condition called Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome, or TMS.  You can learn more about TMS and how to overcome it at HealthyStrokes.com.

Answer 5

look up the song "get it up" by mindless self indulgence.

Answer 6

Trevor, this is a serious situation. I do think it has to do with nerves and being afraid maybe to have your first sexual encounter with intercourse.  Here's one thing to think about though.  Consider that you have lost your virginity already! Like President Clinton, you are under the false impression that ejaculating into your partner's mouth isn't s*x! Having oral s*x is having s*x, so you are not a virgin! You may want to talk to a professional counselor about it just to be sure there isn't another psychological reason you are having problems.  I'm no expert, but maybe it has to do with performance anxiety too. Are you ever concerned with how well you can satisfy your partner or if your equipment is big enough?  Think about seeing a counselor if you need to and best of luck!

Answer 7

I just think, that your thinking about it too much, and thats whats preventing you from getting an erection during sexual intercourse, you just need to be relaxed and comfortable and you should be fine.

Although i would recommend you see a doctor, they have the professional advice.

Answer 8

You are too young; it most likely is a mental cause, although physical erection strengthening exercises can help.  http://mistermanpower.net has a guide on how to overcome both.  Worked for me.  

There are also some great premature ejaculation tips and techniques on there, for when you start to get some booty

Answer 9

i think u get to nervous the firstg time it happened and then got even more nervous cuase u where afraid it would happen again, i think its some mental panic u got and what ever bothers ur upper head is affecting our lower head,

try a doctor maybe he can help u on that problem, brake the walls that are holding ur virginity

Answer 10

ya man its nerves.  and its a vicious cycle, each time it happens it just reinforces your nervousness and anxiety.  its called sexual anxiety.  I would suggest talking to your doctor, and though you are not old enough to take viagra or cialis because you cant get it up... he or she may prescribe it to you if the circumstances are right.  I think with viagra or cialis, you cant NOT get a sustainable erection at your age.... thus I think it will work!  

taking a viagra will get it up and then you will have the confidence to insert.  Find a girl who doesnt expect much and just let her know its your first time....most will be cool and understanding!  

Answer 11

You just sound extremely nervous.