Military men, how would you deal with a daughter like this?

Question

Your teenage daughter is outspoken, especially about women's issues and supports left-wing politics, has a very dominant personality and doesn't like to live by anyone else's rules, she refuses to accept authority and repeatedly addressed your high ranking officer friends inappropriately. Your wife is very submissive and you think she lets your daughter have far too much freedom and lack of discipline whlist you're deployed. How would you try to deal with this?

Answer 1

Pray she will have at least one child just like her and that you will live to see it!  Manners are used well if taught well.  Opinions are free, but need not be shared with those who have heard them.  Respect is a two-way street.

sinc,

Dear Abby

Answer 2

My guess is that this didn't just begin this morning. My guess is this has been going on probably for years. The problem lies in the fact that nobody put a stop to it when it started.

"This is a free country. You can think and feel pretty much any way you like. But this is not YOUR house. YOU do not pay the bills. This is MY house. You are only my DAUGHTER. If you like living in this house, you'll obey my rules. My name is not "daddy." It's not "You xxxxxxx x*x xx x xxxxx." It's "Sir." And your mother's name is "Ma'am." And, unless we ask you a 'yes' or 'no' question, the word "no" will NEVER precede either name. If you don't like those simple rules, we'll call CPS and have you placed in a foster home. If you act up and start damaging our house, we'll call the police and have you arrested. It's entirely up to you."

I think the words I'd have with my wife, when I found her allowing the daughter to get away with whatever would be something along the line, "Our jobs in raising a child don't include being her best friend. Unless we want her to be a bum, a prostitute, or a burden on society, we need to teach her what's expected in polite society. She's shown a tendency (remember this is early on -- before it became a propensity) to try our limits. We have to set them. When she steps over them, we need to put her back on the right track. I really mean it about the foster home and the police. She absolutely needs to take responsibility for her actions... and their consequences. If you can agree with that, we've got a deal. If not, we can get a divorce and you get total custody."

Answer 3

Is she on drugs?

Is she pregnant?

Is she getting good grades in school?

If answers 1 and 2 are no, and answer 3 is yes, then you cut the d**n umbilical cord and let her grow up.

Answer 4

dear worried in alabama:

if my daughter was anything like you're describing i'd be extremely ashamed as a parent,and although i feel like there is more to the story truth is you need to sit down with her and have a talk,there is nothing that cant be resolved with a simple conversation,let her know that he independence is not under peril and that she needs to behave like the lady that she is,she needs to quit the whole "I hate authority" fad and understand that is okay to be yourself but you must also respect other people and obey rules because without rules society would crumble.

P.S.If that doesn't work you can always try a good ol' american butt whooping,my father did it to me a couple of times and i turned out allright.

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Answer 5

sounds like they both need a good asswhippin

Answer 6

I'm no military person but it sounds like she needs some discipline

take away ALL phone privileges

take away ALL phone privileges

take away ALL of her freedom

take these suggestions to mind and think about it tell her that there are going to be some changes made and shes not making them also if you tell her about her lost privileges she will straighten up

that's what i did to my doughtier and she now asks to be excused when leaving the room

i sure hope that she stats minding

Answer 7

I will show her examples of people like her that are older. Those rebellious women look cool when they are young but look at them at age 35 , with kids, and no job. I will send her to bootcamp or border school

Answer 8

Let her have her opinions and maybe one day she'll realize that left wing politics can affect honest hard-working families negatively.  She'll see that all is not what it seems to be.  Opinions and perceptions will change but she can have a strong personality; it's ok.  However, the mouthing off and lack of discipline is unacceptable.  That needs to be stopped and it's not as easy as "cutting the cord" as another person advised.  This teenager needs to be put in her place and her parents should not be afraid to do this.  She is what's wrong with our youth today and America's future. There is nothing wrong with tough love, discipline, and supervision.  

Answer 9

Send her to Fort Benning.

Actually, it sounds like somewhat normal teenage rebellion. But make sure you let it be known that all of her actions have consequence. Act like a child, be treated like one.

No tv, friends, dates, parties, ipod, cell phone...whatever.

Those of us in the military cannot expect our children to act like soldiers, and probably should not treat them like one. But we sure can p**s them off.  

Answer 10

lol at ed.....you can always send the kid to military school especially if you have high ranking officer friends..you cant be enlisted...and the wife cowers because the husband has the domineering roll in the house..the daughter refuses to be like the mother and goes the exact opposite way

Answer 11

Pack the girl off to a boarding school.