Miscarriage, and I'm full of questions.?

Question

I feel like I'm responsible for the death of my child. I didn't know I was pregnant until today when my water broke in English class (my first period of the day- and I had to stay in school the whole day) and I was having bad cramps but then they stopped and I started bleeding so I put a tampon in and went to see the nurse and they wouldn't let me leave to go to the doctors.

Long story short, I end up at the free clinic after school and I take a pregnancy test, and it turns out negative but I explain to the nurse what happened at she said I'm miscarrying... and yeah I've had all that miscarrying stuff going on all day. :( it's terrible

so

Question #1. Is it normal to feel guilty? I mean, it wasn't even planned, and I feel like it was my fault. It would have been my first.

Question #2. When does the bleeding stop?

Question #3. Is it a bad idea to wear tampons to stop the bleeding?

Question #4. When do you usually have your period again?

Question #5. My boyfriend really wants to be a daddy (when we're both ready), and he was there when I went to the clinic and we found out and I was in tears and he didn't cry one bit. I understand that we aren't ready, but still. you'd think he'd get a little more emotional, right?

Answer 1

how did you not know you were pregnant the entire time?

Edit: but didnt you realize you weren't getting a period at all for those 9 months?

Answer 2

Men don't always show their emotions in the same way women do. Perhaps he was too stunned to feel sad. If you were having a miscarriage, the test still would've turned up positive.

How could your water break without you even knowing you were pregnant? The earliest your water can break is like 23 weeks. You would've been showing, and missing a whole lot of periods before that would happen.

How old are you, dear? I highly doubt it was a miscarriage. Again, there would've been hcg in your system if you were, and it would've shown up on a test. I'm not trying to diminish your fears/pain, but it's not likely it's a miscarriage. It's more than likely just a period.

Answer 3

How far pregnant were you, and why wouldnt ur school nurse let you go to the hospital if you were miscarrying????

Answer 4

Miscarriages are usually due to chromosomal or hormonal abnormalities. It is nature's way of trying to lower the number of deformities. you are not at fault, it would have happened regardless of what you did. Maybe he's releazed or possibly he didn't really want it. I would talk to him and ask why.

Answer 5

Umm, you didn't speak to a doctor?  Because if you were in the process of miscarrying you should still have a positive pregnancy test.  I would go to the doctor right away because there may be something else seriously wrong.

Answer 6

Yeah pregnancy tests work by tracking your hormones not whether there is a baby in there or not.  The test would still say your pregnant for about a month after your miscarrage.  Until you ovulate again.  So you were not pregnant.  And i would go see a doctor because it could be something much more serious.  Just tell your parents about the random bleeding no need to mention that you are sexually active.  And a doctor can not tell your parents anything that you do not want them to know unless you are billed for it.

Answer 7

Yes its normal to feel guilty i did, still do.

I think its up to 2 weeks, i personally had the worst pain in my life.

Dont wear them, just wait it out.

The month after,maybe a month after that.

He should have, but maybe he was in shock.

How can you not know your pregnant?

Just fyi, make a appointment with a gyno, to do a check up in like a week or two.

Answer 8

do not wear tampons! you may bleed for a few weeks. It is normal to feel sad and like it was your fault, but  am sure that nothing you did caused you to lose your baby. It will take time to heal and your boyfriend just maybe in shock from the whole ordeal and it has not sunk in yet with him. You probably won't have another period for 6 or 7 weeks. You are very fertile after having a miscarriage so be very careful. I am sorry for your loss, but you now have an angel in heaven that you will meet some day.

Answer 9

maybe u should go see a better doctor. Before leaving they should tell you all of the info about when u will get ur period  and if to use tampons which u shouldnt u should only use pads. What do u mean ur water broke? if ur water broke u would be pretty far along......that part confuses me.....definitly definitly see another doctor. Please.

Symptoms of a miscarriage include:

Vaginal bleeding that may be light or heavy, constant or irregular. Although bleeding is often the first sign of a miscarriage, first-trimester bleeding may also occur with a normal pregnancy. But bleeding with pain is a sign that miscarriage is more likely.

Pain. You may have pelvic cramps, abdominal pain, or a persistent, dull ache in your lower back. Pain may start a few hours to several days after bleeding has begun.

Blood clots or grayish (fetal) tissue passing from the v****a.

It is not always easy to tell whether a miscarriage is taking place. A miscarriage often does not occur as a single event but as a chain of events over several days. One woman's physical experience of a miscarriage can be very different from another woman's experience.

Answer 10

I'm an adult and we planned our 2nd pregnancy, but miscarried(3rd pregnancy now).  I'd done nothing wrong and had just learned I was pregnant when I miscarried.  

It is normal to feel sad and guilty.  It has been 9 months since my miscarriage and I still feel sad and wonder if there was anything I could have done to stop it.  The doc explained that more than likely there was something wrong with the baby and they way the sperm and egg joined.  Oh, I miscarried at around 7 weeks.

I'm not sure on the bleeding.  I only bleed for 8-9 days after the miscarriage.  If you were closer to full term, you could bleed like you would have after a delivery which is 4-6 weeks.

3. No tampons!  Get the thick pads if the bleeding is heavy.

4. I had to go to my doctor to get pills that made my cycle regulate itself and start having periods again.

5. Men handle things differently than women.  My hubby didn't shed a tear either.  He did however become moody and withdrawn when I wanted to talk about it.  A counseling session revealed that he wasn't comfortable expressing his emotions about the miscarriage therefore he became angry and withdrawn.

I am so sorry for your loss.  Please try to be more careful and wait to get pregnant until you are out of school and can take better care of a baby.  Also, go see a doctor.  It is better that your mom(you can ask her not to tell your dad just yet) know and help you through this and make sure you are ok.  There are so many things that could happen like infections, part of hte baby staying inside you.... A doctor might be able to help you determine how far along you were as well.

ps- My water broke 2 days before I delivered my daughter.  The nurse at the emergency room didn't believe me and wouldn't do any tests.  We had the baby 2 days later and had to stay in the hospital for 4 days because of the water leaking out causing problems.  My doctor said I was very lucky because it was slowly leaking out(he was out of town).  it is best to get checked just incase you are having the baby and not miscarrying.  Also , the test should have shown positive.  Mine showed positive for about 2 weeks after my m/c(can't remember for sure as I was upset and didn't write it down).