Miscarriage, did anyone else feel like this?

Question

Every one thinks I'm going nuts or looking sympathy or something, I'm not, are they being unfair or is it normal to feel like this?

so i have 3 questions

1st---My wee cousin and myself where pregnant at the same time, i lost the baby when i was around 8/9 weeks, (due to a lot of stress) i was home alone and it happened in my bathroom, shes just had her baby and i cant bring myself to go and see the baby, i am happy everything went ok for her *but am i being selfish by staying away?*

2nd --- every time i feel sick now or am slightly late i believe i am pregnant, i dont want to be pregnant again and want to stop thinking i am. *how do i get over the feeling I'm pregnant? *

3rd---atm I'm sitting here, i have sore b*****s, i feel ill and really tired, again I'm thinking I'm pregnant but this has happened before and turned out i wasn't. *is this normal after a miscarriage?*

any advice is welcomed as i think im going mad!!

Answer 1

im sorry

i just went thru a miscarriage myself

my best friend is pregnant,with Twins ,its hardto look at someone thats pregnant,no your not selfish, she should understand what your going thru too...

still give your self time of what your going thru, and i just feel empty now, i would just ask your doctor about the feeling pregnant thing at your follow up....

Answer 2

i recently had one,, omg im the complete same,, my cousin is preggers now and i cant stand to see them.. i now keep thinkin i am coz i feel like it!! you are not going mad

Answer 3

First I would like to say I am very very sorry for your loss.  What you are experiencing and feeling is 100% normal and they are being unfair by suggesting you are looking for sympathy.  Losing a child can be utterly devastating and it can take a long time to grieve and heal from the loss, especially if others are insensitive to your feelings.

To answer your specific questions:

1) You are not being selfish at all.  There is nothing wrong with not being able to go and more importantly, do not force yourself to do so until you feel ready and capable.

2) I went through the same thing.  To get over the feeling, I had to remind myself that we were using protection and that the chances were against me that I would accidentally get pregnant.  

3) Pregnancy symptoms take a while to disappear and it is normal for them to linger a while.  If you have had at least one cycle, then it is probably aggrevated PMS or in your head.  A miscarriage throws your cycle off and can do a complete 180 on the various things you experience and go through during your cycle.

All in all, take time to heal and grieve for your loss.  If others do not want to understand how you feel it is their problem not yours.  

Answer 4

The same thing happened to me. My best friend and I got pregnant on the same day and were given the same due date. She's now 22 weeks pregnant and I've only seen her once since my mc. It's really hard to be with her and not be emotionally drained. I also trick myself into pregnancy symptoms every month. I've been trying to get pregnant again ever since my mc in May. I'm afraid it's all in your head (as well as mine). Maybe just take an extra step in contraception to make sure that you won't get pregnant and that might help put your mind at ease. Don't feel bad about your emotions.  Find a supportive friend that will understand how you feel!