Miscarriage..... advice ?

Question

hi i had a miscarriage on saturday im trying not to let it get to me but it did at first.we were not trying but have realised from this that we are ready mentally and emotionally together how long will it take to get back to normal can you start when you ovulate again or will i not ovulate for couple of months ?? advice please?

i have read takeing charge of your fertillity but its not very understandable 2 me ....x

Answer 1

sorry for your loss.

every women is different. it is hard to tell if you will ovaluate if you not using OPK to monitor/

I miscarried at the beginning of April and bleed for 8 weeks straight before the doctors decided to give me an D & C on June 10th... 18 days later I got my first period. and my cycle has changed dramatically it is longer and alot heavier.. i've been using OPK"s to help me figure out when I ovulate.

Everyone women is different and after a miscarriage you can expect you period anywhere between 2 - 6 weeks. Most doctor prefer if you have 1 or 2 cycles before trying again but my doctor was supportive and told me to try when i knew i was EMOTIONALLY ready... he says that miscarriage are alot harder emotinally on women then everything else so if i was ready he told me to start trying again. Also note, that right after a miscarriage you are very fertile so you chances are pretty high to conceive right away.

The best advice I got when i miscarried was from a friend wwho ad a miscarriage and then got pregnant and had a little boy she told "someday you will understand why this happened" - and i personally really liked that because i was SOO tired of hearing "you are young and it will happen when the time is right"... etc.

Sorry for you loss...and it does slowly get easier but you will always wonder..what if.

Answer 2

sorry for your loss, I understand what it's like.  I had a miscarriage in March and my doctor recommended I wait until I had one regular cycle.  I got my period about 5 weeks after the miscarriage and have been TTC ever since.  I have been using opk's and my ovulation was all over the place for the first few months, but as of last month, I am completely back on track and back to normal having my regular "perfect" 28 day cycles again.... so it has taken a good 3 months for my body to get back to "normal".  You can actually start to ovulate right after a miscarriage so I would use some form of protection until you've had one period, then you know your body is back on track.  If your emotionally ready to start TTC again after your next period, then everything should be ok!

Answer 3

Wow I'm so sorry for your lost. Usually your cycle will go back to normal within 4 to 6wks. But maybe you should wait a little longer because the hcg hormane may take longer to process out your system and you will get a false positive on a pregnancy test. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Hi, first off sorry for your loss.  I too have experienced m/c.  In April'08 i had a natural m/c at 5wks, i actually conceived again that same week, HOWEVER i suffered a missed m/c 4wks ago at 12wks, only measure 8wks and no longer a heartbeat.  I understand the emptiness you feel and the urge to try again, however having gone through this yet again i have realised i should have listened to all the advice i received at the time.  Give your body and yourself time to recover and heal from this, wait at least a couple of months and try again. However, if you feel you are ready then just a wee bit of info, you are at your most fertile after a m/c.  I wish you all the best of luck and i hope everything works out for you the next time

Answer 5

First off, I'm sorry for you lose.  I had a miscarriage almost 4 months ago and it was one of the hardest things I have experienced.  You definitely need to deal with your emotions regarding it.  Let it get to you...you have to express your feelings, it helps.  I am very irregular with my cycles.  I had not had a period since my miscarriage and just found out a wk or so ago that we are expecting!  I guess your body is very fertile after a miscarriage.  But do make sure to allow your body to heal and strengthen again.  The recommended time is about two cycles.  You don't want to get pregnant too soon with the possibility of your body not being ready to carry another pregnancy.  Good luck and baby dust to you!

Answer 6

I had 3 miscarriages myself before going to term with my son (who is now 3 1/2 months old).  I know just how painful it is to go through, so I want to extend my condolences.  The first 2 miscarriages that I had, it took about 6-7 weeks to recover physically from them and start a normal cycle again.  The last miscarriage that I had was last June.  I never did get my period back.  I got pregnant about 7 weeks after the miscarriage and my period never did start back up.   The doctor told us to wait about 4-6 weeks after the miscarriage to allow your body to heal before trying again if we were emotionally ready.  We got pregnant before we really started trying.  I hope that this helps.  Keep your chin up and good luck!

Answer 7

I'm very sorry for your loss.  Trying or not to get pregnant, it's still painful when you lose one.  I lost one too, last month.  First, it's important you see your doctor and discuss this with him/her.  Second, my doctor told me it can take 4-6 weeks to get your period back and then he said we could start trying again.  Some doctors recommend you wait 2-3 cycles.  Everyone is different which is why you need to discuss this with your own doctor who knows your medical history.  Good luck!