Miscarried sunday night?

Question

I am so MAAAD! Dont know why i am usually a strong person. I had a miscarrige on sunday night. Now i hate pregnant women i hate baby stuff i bascially just hate the freaking world. I do have a healthy 15 month old which i adore and love and cherish. But I cant get over this feeling why me!?!?!?! Any advice?

Answer 1

It is very understandable to be upset and hateful. The only thing that will help is time. but look at it like this, you at least have one healthy baby. some people try to get pregnant for years and never conceive at all. Think of how they must feel. Maybe try talking to close friends and family and look to them for support. But you have to give it time, it'snot something to get over easily. But just be thankful for the little one you already have that is alive and healthy.  

Answer 2

I know how you feel...like you want to strangle all those who are happy with there ugly, little babies and their plump, lively bellies.  Maybe that was a little to harsh, but I've been there.  I think it's a lot like postpartum, you are loosing something that once was inside of you.  There's not much one can say after the loss of child but obviously be ever so thankful for the happy, healthy 15 month old with you adore and love and cherish so much.  And maybe down the road, try again.

Answer 3

Aww. That's sad. I had a miscarriage after my first child. But I didn't give up. Just hang in there it will happen and you'll have a beautiful baby.

Answer 4

I miscarried last month and although the pregnancy was unplanned and I was unsure how I felt about being pregnant, I was really upset. I hated seeing baby stuff and cried when an ad for a baby expo came on TV! I joined a forum with a good miscarriage and loss section and shared how I was feeling with other ladies who had been through a similar thing. It is hard, but it does get better, I promise.  

Answer 5

if you're a beliver i advise you go to church ....i miscarried the 20th of  july 2008 and i dont have any hate towards anything.im emotionally stable i think its because i know that god does it all for a reason its his plan for me.he'll bless you again when its right.sorry for your loss and be happy you got you're 15 month old.be strong everything will work its self out

Answer 6

Hopefully you have supportive people you can talk to, that's so hard to deal with, no matter how strong you are. Anger is a totally appropriate emotion to have,  and time is the best healer. Love up that 15 month old!!!

Answer 7

You are truly not alone.  The doctors suspect I am about to miscarry too and I am crushed.  I work in a doctor's office and I knew I couldn't work today after then told me what they suspect.  Watching young pregnant girls coming and going all day long was too much for me to bear.  I went shopping to distract myself and it seemed that all I saw were babies or things for babies.  It's hard not to be bitter when the baby I so desperately wanted will probably not make it.  

Hang in there.  I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

My miscarriage will be a year on the 25th of next mo.I know it is awful to see everyone around you pregnant and you are not.Prayer is the only thing that has worked for me.

Edit:to the first answer what exactly is lol about the loss of a child

SOme people just don't get it probably some kid with nothing better to do

Answer 9

I'm sorry you are going through this.  You are just grieving.  Anger is definitely a part of that.  Allow yourself to grieve as long as you need.  It will get better over time, I know from experience.  Good Luck.

Answer 10

I completely understand. I have not had a miscarriage but I was told I suffered from a disorder that caused infertility. I HATED pregnant women, babies, baby stuff - anything that had to do with babies. I had the why me feeling as well. Well, anyway I ended up getting pregnant the very month I was given the diagnosis.

Miscarriage has to be very hard - I've known a few women who have suffered them and they were horribly upset. People say - "oh you can try again" but they obviously don't understand. I'm really sorry for your loss. I am sure you will eventually find some peace.

Answer 11

I recently miscarried too.  I felt the same way when I recenly miscarried  but I think the extreme feelings are from the rapid change in hormone levels.  Did you know when you miscarry your Progesterone dips lower than before you were pregnant.  It's required for the body to fully miscarry the baby.  That can make you feel crazy - almost post partum. I would do whatever makes you feel good over the next few days... eat McDonalds, sleep, get your hair done etc..  I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 12

I know exactly how you feel. I had an incident last year with my ex boyfriend, and i miscarried and then his current girlfriend is now pregnant and it took me forever to be able to handle it. Its still really hard on me. but to this day I just don't like to see pregnant women or when I go in a store I have to avoid going into the baby section. Its hard, but just remember that you have your 15 month old. :) things will get better. Try just relaxing. I know its hard but if you find other things to occupy yourself it will make things a little easier on you. It will take a while, but thats normal.I suggest that you find a friend that you can just talk to about it, or your partner because I tried the whole therapy route because I just couldn't function at all, and in my case it just made things worse.The people close to you are the best support system and they can work miracles. I wish you the best of luck in the future, and hope everything works out for you.  

Answer 13

Just think why you wanted the baby in the first place... anyways its not like you cant have any more babies AT ALL, many people cant even have a baby even though its there dream. Im very sorry for you, although time to get back on the horse before the you chance is gone.

Answer 14

I am sorry to hear that...