Misery loves company. why is that? ?

Question

One day l came home from work in a happy mood and my wife said something that made me upset and then later admitted the did it, because I always seem to be happy and she was tired of seeing me smiling and cheerful all the time. l believe people who do not believe in God are the same way as my wife is. They know you're happy and will do everything in their power to try to take away your joy. If you are unhappy and have nothing better to do then to s***w up people lives, go stand in front of a mirror and s***w up your own lives. l will be happy to donate the mirror for you if it will get you far away from me? all negativity does is drain a person and l can't be around people who just drain the life out of people.

Answer 1

Life is not a steady carousel, but roller-coaster

Answer 2

I think that is one way to look at it but when I hear that statement I think of people that you know and you have learned to never ask them how they are doing because it leads to three hours of everything that is going wrong in their life...which is always absolutely everything.  Misery loves company because misery love to share how miserable they are.  Deep down I feel bad for people who can't seem to see anything good in their life and yeah it is quite draining.

Answer 3

Because miserable people do not like to be alone in their misery, and they think it's unfair that others are happy when they are not.

I'm with you, keep your misery I will be here when you want to cheer up again.

Gypsy

Answer 4

AMEN TO THAT BROTHA.  People like that you have to stay awayyyyyyyy from.

Answer 5

my dads is pastor of a fundie church, and all those people are pessimistic as h**l. Was raised going to full gospel churchs, and people there tend to be very negative about the outside world.  I guess it depends on your perspective.

Answer 6

It's comforting to think you're not alone, which is why people make up lies to make themselves and others like them feel better.  That way you feel justified and 'normal' without having to seriously interrogate why you're unhappy.  It's an easy way out...

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Answer 7

And you don't think you're being a negative person, draining the life out of nonbelievers like me by making huge, demeaning sweeping generalizations? Your double standards are showing, my friend.

Answer 8

Don't let people like that get you down!

If they say something to you that is upsetting, let them know that what they said is upsetting, and that if they are going to continue that behaviour, that you are going to (leave, ask them to stop, something).

Remember, your feelings and emotions are your own. NO ONE can  MAKE you feel anything! Let the person know this in a nice manner, and if they insist on trying to bum you out, avoid interaction with them if possible.

If someone is depressed, they might feel this way. I would recommend that your wife go to her doctor or to a psychologist so that they can see if she is in need of medicine to help her body regulate her mood.  

I hope that all works out well for you and your wife!

Peace!

Answer 9

What does this have to do with god? You know what? Some people are optimists, others are pessimists. It's NOT normal to be happy all the time. It's okay to have a bad day and just because someone is having a bad day doesn't mean you're morally righteous or superior to them (or closer to any god). It just means that you're likely more laid back, don't let a lot get to you, and are likely very optimistic. That's either a part of a person's normal personality or it isn't.  

Answer 10

Simple, negativity attracts negativity and it has nothing to do with believing in (insert god here). It's the person, who controls there thoughts and emotions. Some people are optimistic, others are pessimistic. Besides you ever wonder what is troubling her? It isn't all about you sorry to rain on your parade.

Key quote: You control your own happiness, and shouldn't allow anyone to bring you down.

Answer 11

Well, it does seem that the miserable want to feel that they're not alone in their negativity.  I don't agree that you need to believe in God to be happy but from my experience, it certainly helps to raise your level of happiness to have a strong foundation in him and a definitive outlook on the rest of your life.

I understand the situation.  I've found that people who throw negativity at you do tend to stop throwing it once they realize they have no power over you.  Returning their negativity with love is not only rewarding but is often a disarming experience for them.  Try it and observe the results!

Answer 12

I hope you took your wife out to dinner.

I agree with you, but someone has to "fight the dark side."  So I signed on.

Answer 13

Seems more like stupidity loves company.

Answer 14

dude u dont seem so great either just by the fact u said a generalization of how atheist are unhappy. in my view i have seen many theists that are actually very miserable that love to make others just as miserable. maybe ur wife is tired of 'i am holier than thou art' attitude of urs. have u ever came to think that u have contribute to ur wife's unhappiness? that maybe to some extent u are the cause of it? i doubt u do. and is in it very unchristian of u to not be more worried over her well being too?  im sure that when u married ur wife she was a happy go lucky kind of gal but now through marriage and other issues she is unhappy. why dont u stop generalizing and try to see by communicating with ur wife why she is the way she is instead of ranting here cause ur not here for advice ur here to read others that have the same opinion that u have.  

Answer 15

i agree unbelievers always try to rain on your parade, when they know your happy with your life with God

Answer 16

many Pisces ppl get depressed...its about personality too...

you sound too harsh....DO YOU EVER THINK OF HER FEELINGS AHEAD OF YOUR OWN?? Ask Her what she wants...

Answer 17

coz she is a .........