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Question

I am in need of a little relationship advice.

My husband and I bought a house a few years ago. He really liked one house in particular and he was very excited and wanted to put an offer on it. We did and got the house. Then he just turned on me! Everytime something went wrong it was "I only went along with the house because you wanted one" and "I never wanted this... this is so stressful".. and blah blah. It seemed like he had gotten over that after a year or so.

Then we started talking about kids. He told me he thought he wanted to try in September. SO I went off the pill and we started using condoms until that comes around. I also started charting my temps to see if/when I ovulate so that it can be easier when we start trying.

He saw me take my temp the other morning and asked me what I was doing. i told him I was taking my temps to find out if I ovulate. He was like, "that is really weird. you are doing it to find out when you are fertile... i told you i didn't want to try until september. this is too much pressure." then he got back on the house thing again...."i wanted to move around the country and do lots of other things but now i have a house and a job and i can't do what i want"

I wanted to tell him to just get the h**l out, but I didn't. He later apologized for being so selfish and said he doesn't mean what he says and that he'll get over it eventually.

I just don't know what think. Are men just LIKE this every once in a while? Or did I just pick the most indecisive man of all time? Long term relationship experience would be much appreciated.

Answer 1

it seems as though your husband is very stressed out about everything in his life. Sit down with him and have a talk about where he is coming from and what has got him so stressed out...  We all get stressed out and we unfortunately take it out on the ones closest to us....Encourage him to talk to you about it ...HIs job may be really messing with him mentally ..it could be a number of things...but you have to talk about it.

Answer 2

maybe hes really stressed, and thats how he handles it. it seems like hes panicking. or maybe going through a life crisis, where he feels like he has to accomplish more things before he has kids. also, maybe hes just worried about having  a good life and being able to support you and stuff, so hes just..stressing himself out.

sit down and have a gooood talk with him, get to the bottom of this. maybe he'll open up.