Mixed race relationship?

Question

my father is against me dating guys who are a different race than me. we have been fighting about this for two years now. he says that i'm a disappointment to him because of this. he has also said that if i marry a man out of my race that he will alienate me from my family. he even has good friends that are a different race. he's not the one who's dating them so why does he amke such a big deal out of it? we're getting to the point where we barely speak to each other because we don't have the same views about this. how can i make him realize that skin color doesn't matter and that i can't help who i fall for? any help? please!

Answer 1

He sounds rather racist, and the only thing you can do is just date who you like, marry who you love, and just let him know that nothing he can do will make you think like him.

It may change his mind, it may not, and although he is your father, you just need to remember that it is your life and your heart, and if he has an issue with that then maybe it's better if he's not around bashing your man.

Answer 2

your race and the color of your skin are no big deal. if you like a guy who is a different race than you, go for it. they are no do different than you and me

Answer 3

Both of you see a counslor if he wont do that then go by his rules until you move out. Or dont let him know about it but that is risky. Is it that big of a deal right now, are you seeing someone special? if so then try to see someone for help. Talk to your school counslor. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...

my whole families like this, i accept it because i dont mix....

Answer 5

at this point in america alot of people want to keep there race pure.there is nothing wrong with that all races do it.

Answer 6

Well, to be honest, their house, their rules.  Keep your life in order and make sure you get into college.  From there you can date the guys you want.

Unfortunately, that is the easy part.  Finding a good one is the difficult part.

Your dad is human.  He has your best interest in mind but no one is perfect.

Answer 7

Good luck, you're his little girl and I doubt he will give up his ideas here whether they be right or wrong.  

Answer 8

skin color isn't the only difference, your dad seems like a smart man

Answer 9

You can't change his views, you just need to do what you want to do.  You're going to have to choose.

Answer 10

Wat a lame father... i wud cut him outa my life... but if you dont wana do that talk to him about ur feeeling and MAKE HIM LISTEN! hopefully he will see reson... if not, i dont know.

Answer 11

My father is the same. I just do it anyway. You must explain to him that you have no intentions of marrying this person, you are only dating them. If he doesnt support you on this, then you are not the burden, he is. Just know you are right for excepting people for who they are and seeing past the colour of their skin. Your dad should be proud, not telling you you're a dissappointment, he is.

Answer 12

Tell him to get over it you are gonna like whoever the h**l you want and its up to him if he wants to keep his daughter

Answer 13

You could show him this video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_Dbg7JQ_...

Please watch it

Answer 14

I have a friend like this its hurt to convince these people you may not be able to do anything

Answer 15

i think that if u tell him about how people lived in the old days how they treated black people and tell him how mean they were to them back then, then he would relize that skin color really dosent matter and maybe if he dosent belive in God then matbe u should try to talk to him about God then maybe he will change his minde.  

Answer 16

You said it right, your father's not the one dating them.  Obviously, he's set in his ways and will most likely NOT come around to your point of view anytime.  I would say, keep dating who you like, eventually you will find a good enough man that will take care of you and be there for you emotionally and be all the things you want in a bf/husband...your father will just have to deal with it.  

In the end, if your father really cares about you he will just want to see that you are happy in the end.  If not...well, it's your life, not his.  

Answer 17

if you fall in love with a guy outside out of your race and happen to have children, ultimately, the children are the ones who get the bad end of a mixed relationship. some environments tolerate it more than others. but if you happen to be an all white neighborhood, chances are, mixed races will be frowned upon. unfortunately, that is the day and age we're living in.

Answer 18

ADAM AND EVE WERE WHITE AND BLACK DO KNOW THAT ,SO WE ALL COME FROM MIXED ,GOD DONT DIFFRECIATE US WITH OUR COLOUE SO WE ARE TO DO THAT.

Answer 19

Ignore your dad. He seems like a bad parent. A parent is one who can provide unconditional love no matter what you do. If your father is going to abandon you because you are a tolerant person, then he's not a dad worth being with.

Answer 20

unfortunately you can't change your dad, or anyone else for that matter!  if you find someone you care about, maybe you could slowly integrate him into your family.  first introduce the person to close friends, then close family members, then if everyone else likes him, they can help sway your dad.  i think it has a lot to do with your dad's generation and how they were raised.  in 2008, it's hard to believe that people are still prejudiced, but they are.  

Answer 21

Good for you for being so level headed.....  you cant help who you fall in love with.....  

Be yourself, and do what you want to do.  

Answer 22

just tell him your dating a guy that's your race, lie.

Answer 23

In my honest opinion, it sounds as though he is set in his ways.  The only thing I can tell you is to give him time.  Either he will come around or he won't.  He needs to decide what's important to him, skin color or his daughter.  Sorry I couldn't be more help.

Answer 24

do what you want to do. It only matters if you love the guy

Answer 25

Hi There, U can ask God to help u out with this. HE is there for you. Good luck on it. God bless you.

Answer 26

that's rough.  but you can't change how he feels (unfortunately).  you just have to be with someone who makes YOU happy regardless of color and hopefully in time he will see how happy you are and come around to the idea.  just remember he is the one in the wrong.

Answer 27

Are you ONLY dating people out of your race to be rebellious?  Some dads are just very strict when it comes to the guys their daughters date.  It isn't easy for him either.  Don't bring them around until you are sure its somebody that you feel you will be with for awhile.  I don't know that I would call him racist but you know him better than I do and if thats the case...you won't win this one.  Sorry and Good Luck

Answer 28

maybe i would agree with him in some points, the relationship is hard when it is mixed race, im talking if only that relation is for marriage not just for fun,  you should consider the consequences and just hear your father cos he is talking to u for yr best,

having same culture in a relationship its very immportant..

good luck to u  

Answer 29

it is really ridiculous how people are like that. Get out of the

past and get in the present. Things are changing and the only way this will get ressolved if he adapts to those changes like you have. People need to look beyond the color of people's skin. We are in the 21st century and not in the 20th. Just keep doing what your doing and if he can support his daughter and who she falls in love with. Honestly, he's a terrible father.

Answer 30

If the guy is really a nice guy and treats you very well and if your dad really loves you and ofcourse he wants you to be happy.  Just give it some time.  Your dad will not change over night.  Find the guy first.  Before your dad meets him talk about what a wonderful man he is and what nice things he does for you then your dad hopefully see that as long as your happy and there is someone that is taking care of you that it doesn't matter.  

Good luck and don't rush your dad.  .

Answer 31

I know some fathers like that. I dont know what to say all i have to say is to follow your heart. Do you want to please your father...Or do you want to please yourself?