Molested daughter!!?

Question

my 11 year old daughter just told me that my 12 year old daughter Alice has been molested.

Alice is very sensitive when it comes to these things and i need to ask her about it.

i dont know if Alice has realy been molested but i have to ask her.

any suggestions how??

Answer 1

confirm abt this

ask daughter abt this

then fie charges against guilty

Answer 2

interrogate

Answer 3

talk 2 ur daughter as soon as possible ! but be gentle =]

Answer 4

First explain 2 the 12 year old that her sister told bc she cared about her and didnt want her 2 get hurt even more.The 12 year old probably told the 11 year old not 2 tell but the 11 year old did anyway.

Second tell the 12 year old that it waznt her fault wat happened.(BTW kids dont joke about this kind of stuff so the 11 year old probably didnt lie).If Alice denies that she waz molested tell her that u wont get mad if she waz.

P.S.If she cries and she says she waz then calmly ask her 2 tell u who did it.Dont press it if she doesn't want 2 tell.Give her time.

Answer 5

ASK HER!!!!! do not wait!!! make her feel comfotable and help her open up to you! find out who the d*ck head is that did this to her! and lock him up in jail where he needs to be!!!!!!!!! dont let something like this go b/c u could ruin her LIFE!!!

Answer 6

You need to sit down with your daughter in a comfortable setting and let her know that you heard that someone inappropriately touched her.  Molested is a scary word for a 12 year old so I wouldn't use that one.  Then reassure her that if this did happen that it was not her fault at all and the person who performed the act needs to be punished so he won't do it again to her or to someone else.  

This is a difficult situation, but it needs to be addressed immediately.  Then after you have a talk with her it might be wise to call a psychologist because I see many cases where this affects the girl so much that they ruin their lives...  Luckily it was caught early.. Good luck.

Answer 7

i think u should tell her if something is wrong but don't laugh at her coz man this thing ispretty serious

Answer 8

DO NOT LOST TIME.

but be easy on it. kids can be very tricky and liars.

Answer 9

please dont get me wrong. by asking her she may get confused of what you are trying to say. maybe i suggest show her not too p**n vcd and sit further from her, see the reaction on her face. IF there is a fear slowly off the vcd and ask her slowly if anyone do this to her? tell her that this is not her mistake and this type of people must be punished too.

so maybe this helps..

nowadays talking about s*x is included in school but it is sensitive for a girl to be asked by her own parents..so try n dont delay

Answer 10

1. ask the 11 y/o if it rly true " is this true? ur not lieing to me r u?

2. have a talk with both the girls. "hey girls i just wanted to talk with u. i just wanna let u kno tht u can tell me anything and i wont be mad. we'll just talk about it.

3.when the 12 y/o says something like "well there is this one thing tht happend to me..."

4ask the 11 y/o to plz leave.

5. talk. dont get mad tho. just tell her its gonna be ok and ur there for her now.

Answer 11

You are her MOTHER! You need to find out what happened.

Use a gentle voice, and if she refuses to tell you anything, don't scold or yell, just say why you need to know.

Best of luck!

Answer 12

get it over with quickly

firstly say;

'Alice lets go to MacDonald's (or something she really likes) but before we go i would just wanted to ask you something, your sister said some ones been hurting you, will you please tell me if its true., i wont be mad its not your fault'

give her a chance to talk - or she may say nothing , which is Moro worrying but what ever take her out after , change the subject and do something she reli enjoys.

then just repeat this until you satisfied.

Answer 13

Rachel, it happened to me at ten.  I know how it hurts inside.  Dad could tell you how he felt about it when it happened to me, but from what I remember, he darn near killed the kid.  Dad calmed down, adn called the poilice t odeal  with it, instead of harming the boy.  But dad talked to me about it.  He help[ed me getthrough it, and years later, now that I am 24, i can still remember  waht i felt like when the boy babysitting me did wat he did.  Yu need tot take her aside, away from distractions, and tell her that you have heard something that you nee to know if it is true or not.  She is goingto need alot of hugs and love.  If shetells you tha it didn't happen, you are going to have to question you other daughte more, and find out where she got the information that her sister has ben molested.  Chances are that it DID happen, and this is going to be very hard on all of you.  You will need to contact the police, and give them everything you know, and also from your daughter.  I hope it isn't rue, but why would her younger sister tell you something like that if it wasn't true?  It's not like she could be tattling to get her older sister in trouble, and there is no way taht this could ever get your younger daughter more attention, so taht leads me to believe that you have been told httruth.  Watch your older daughter for mood/behavior changes, if you have not seen them already. Talk to her, contact the police, and get her some help.  That kind of trauma has a way of growing nad festering until it becomes too hard for her to handle, and hte results cold be tragic.  I know.  Believe me.. >I< KNOW.

Answer 14

Just ask her asap and if she denies it tel her your other daughter told you and you'll get the truth out of either of them

Answer 15

Talk to them and let them know that what happened is not their fault and find out who did it and press charges.

Answer 16

Okay

1st, we dont need her name.

2nd, you need to think, who could have done it?

Talk to the 11 year old more.

Then talk to Alice, it will be worse if you do not get to the bottom of it.

Good luck.

Answer 17

you need to find out if its true very quickly......find out how the 11 year old knows and get more info and then speak to the 12 year old .. Good Luck and i hope she wasnt :\

Answer 18

Your her MOM! just ask her and FAST, you need to get to the bottom of this.