Mom's boyfriend!!! Please help!

Question

My mom has been going out with this guy for about a year and all of a sudden he has been really mean towards me and brings me down. He says he does it because I do it to him and I don't know when I'm doing it or not and don't mean to be mean. I tried to tell my Mom but she doesn't want to get onvolved cause she really likes him. And I just can't handle it or do anything about it. What should I do??

Answer 1

Ask him how he thinks you're being mean. Explain to him that you aren't trying to be mean, you're sorry he perceives that way, and next time he starts acting like a jerk, ask him how old he is. He's an adult for crying out loud. Its pretty ******* childish for him to be mean and rude to his gf's daughter. He should maybe find out why you're "being mean" to him and work on it from there. Not retaliate. What is he? 12?

Answer 2

There is nothing you can do to convince mum. Mum doesn't really know what going on? That what happen to a lot of people who had a problem with mum new boyfriend. Mum should alway listen to children not boyfriend. That is more important.

My advice is, try to sit down and have a serious word with mum and let her know what is happening? So who know?

Answer 3

Let me tell you, if your mom is as selfish as mine I feel sorry for you.  If you can move out of the house I would.  If your mom isn't getting involved that is not good she sounds selfish.  My advice is keep your mouth shut and just get by till you can get the h**l out of there and if you mom doesn't back you up, make sure you give it back to her when she gets old and needs you.

Answer 4

Tell him you're sorry & that you didn't realize. . .

You guys should make a 'safe word' like monkey (or something funny. . .) too say whenever either of you is feeling offended. When someone says this word, the other person has to start trying to be nice. It also won't be as awkward as one of you saying that the other is being mean.

This way you will learn when you are doing it

Ask him for examples. Tell him you want to be nicer & this will help so you'll realize when you are doing it. . .

(your mom is being immature & should help out in the situation)

Answer 5

Ok i think you should ask him how and when you are bringing him down and if you are stop and don't say anything to him with an attitude and if he continues, you should try talking to your mom about it every single day and don't stop nagging her about it and if that doesn't work, your screwed if you need to talk you can e-mail me i know what your going through my mom's bf is a jerk 2. best of luck  

Answer 6

how old are you? i mean, are you old enough to move out and to be financially independent? if you are, you should move out. Otherwise you're gonna be miserable because of her bf. It's not worth it. If you're not, just take a record, literally, of what he'll do to you next time, you know, sth bad so that you can show it to your mom.