Mom and Fiance cant get along and I'm losing it.?

Question

Ok... Well to start off I am underage, close to being legal but not quite. So I can't move out, or I would have by now. Anyways My fiance is in the Marines, He treats me like a princess, and I love him more than anything in this whole world. But he is the type of person, that if he doesn't agree with something, he isn't going to sit there and kiss your butt and tell you he does, hes going to tell you how he feels, and sometimes he does sound smart, he isn't always being that way, my mother just ALWAYS thinks, that if you don't agree with her 110% your being smart. But it is literally killing me, I've gotten to the point of either, wanting to just die, run away, or break up with the person whom I am SO in love with. I've talked to Mama, I've talked to my fiance, I've done everything I possibly know how to handle it. I have enough on my hands because my fiance is about to deploy and I'm scared to death, and I miss him so bad, and they are taking his leave away, plus a lady that was like a grandmother to me, just passed away and I had to go to her funeral today, AND i just started taking birth control because of my cramping and it makes me very sick and tired feeling, so needless to say, I really dont need anymore stress, does anybody know what to do? Because I need somebodys help, its either the man that I know for a fact I'm head over heels in love with & live in a constant heck while i'm still home, or break up with the person I love and live in somewhat peace.. I dont know anymore.

Answer 1

You need to breathe.  Birth control pills shouldn't make you feel yucky.  They're supposed to alleviate a lot of symptoms related with your cycle.  If you keep having problems, you need to switch to something else.  

You shouldn't have to choose between your mother or your fiance'.  They're just going to have to get used to each other because, that's just the way it is.

I don't know what you mean by legal to move out.  Technically you can move out whenever you want. You just need to be able to afford it.  If you are too young to move out, are you old enough to get married - since you call him your fiance'.  

I know a few people who were emancipated from their parents at age 15 and had to be on their own.  It's definitely not an easy life though.  

If they care about you, they should both work it out together.  You shouldn't be the one to do all the leg work. Constantly defending both of them and playing mediator is a big burden on you - and it hurts your feelings.

  

Answer 2

move out

Answer 3

First of all, they both sound like they need to be right...do you ever have any say in anything?  If you feel as you say that you are, "wanting to just die, run away, or break up with the person whom I am SO in love with."  then that tells me you are not ready for a long term relationship.  Mom and the fiance do not have to like each other...You need to decide whether or not you can handle the fact that they don't.  It sounds to me like you are in silence while they both have control over you.  That's not right...you need to tell them both what you want.  If they have a problem with that then you need to reevaluate both relationships.

Answer 4

You didn't say how much under age you are.  Are you 16, 17.  You didn't say why your mother is so much against him.  Is he quite a bit older than you.  We cannot answer your question until we know the answers to these questions other wise we would just be guessing and guessing is not good enough.  You wrote a lot but left out the two most important details.

Do an edit and complete your question.  

Answer 5

Make a list, the pros and cons of having him stay

and having him go. Look over the list and it'll tell

you what will be better for you. I suggest that you

two take a break, while he's in the marines you

should just live normal life, and still be able to date,

have fun with friends etc. Just to take your mind off

things. Once he gets back you can decide where

you both stand and what you want to do then. I

know how hard it is to love someone but not be

able to be with them, it's hard and it took me 2

years to get over but now I know better, and I hope

that you will do what's best for yourself even though

it may not seem like the right decision at the time it

will start becoming more clear along the way.