Mom and I i got in a huge fight what to do?

Question

Ok so....here's the deal. My mom and I were driving somewhere and something happens with my car so she ends up driving it home. On the way there she keeps criticizing my driving even though I have always been fine. So I'm like just give me some space..and she keeps going and I'm like please shut up you know howi get worked up over this stuff. and she goes off on me about how i never do anything im like wtf i have done more than you in my lifetime. that's where i messed up I admit it. but i say im sorry. later, she starts attacking me saying im scum and im whatever else. i mean like the worst stuff ever. she says she wasted ehr life raising me and that i should live with my dad because I don't appreciate ****. I lay on my bed and get attacked from her for 2 hours (in our cramped apartment in NYC) and then she will not listen to me. what's worse kicking me when I'm down or mine. I am still so worked up. Ugh Im so depressed.

Answer 1

I know how you feel, my mom is like that too. All you gotta do is give her some space for a while and once you both cool down apologize to her and tell her that you think she was a bit harsh on you and you feel she won't listen to at all what you say. Sometimes when your parents say harsh things to you they are just stressed out and can't help it. Don't ever say what you are thinking or things will get baadd. I have learned to just keep your mouth shut while they are pissed, and nod, and apologize, then as soon as they calm down explain to them how you felt (not in an angry swearing out of control way) and then most likely things will get better. I hope I've helped. Good luck.

pEaCe <3

xoxoBecca

Answer 2

It sounds like both you and your mom are very angry women.  I think that you should seek family counseling.

Good luck!

Answer 3

How old are you????  It may not be physcal however it is abusive if she did not want you then why are you not with your dad...

Answer 4

Sit your mum down and tell her how you feel. Have a good long chat without getting into an argument and try to sort things out - come to a compromise. Don't turn arguments into a big thing and end up ignoring each other for years, a lot of people have done this and you end up wasting years just because you were too scared to talk to each other. Your mum shouldn't blame you or recent you for being unhappy with her life - that's unfair. Maybe you are being unappreciative - simple things like helping with the house-work or making her a cup of tea, tell her you love her every once in a while. I hope everything works out.

Answer 5

maybe you should live with your father,  Maybe you and your mother need a break for each other!  I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 6

It sounds like your mom has personal problems that build up.  So when you do something, she explodes, but she is already upset, so she explodes on you.  I think she needs some counseling.  Of course, I am only hearing your side of the story.  I'm sorry you are having a hard time.  Many times we look at the other person wanting them to change their ways so you will be happy.  what you need to do is look at yourself and see what you can do to change your ways.  have a heart-to-heart with yourself and pinpoint your negative habits.  Once you start with this, talk to your mom and let her know you have some things about yourself you want to change for the better.  then maybe your mom will take a look at herself and do the same things.  You may have to be the leader here to get things rolling in order to have a better relationship with your mom.  

Answer 7

kill that *****

Answer 8

Maybe you and your mom could use some counseling.

Answer 9

It sounds like Mom is unhappy with herself and is taking it out on you. Maybe she's unhappy with her job, if she's working or she's worried about bills or maybe she needs a social life. By saying she wasted her life raising you, what she might really mean is, she wasted her life by not accomplishing something for herself. Let her know she is appreciated and ask what it is that is making her so unhappy. Make dinner time a time to talk about each others day. Play a card game or something so you have one-on-one time; you cook dinner for her and do the clean-up. Encourage her to spend time with her friends.

I don't think the problem is entirely you; I just think she's unhappy with her life and could use some encouragement.

Realize that you are a good person and that she is also. Find some good times to share and like I tell my son "It's all about making memories!"