Mom drinks.?

Question

my mom doesnt drink like, alot but its the fact that she is drinking and i feel like she needs alcohol in her life to be happy. i have told her that i dont like it when she drinks and she doesnt listen. what do i do? should i throw out all of the beers in the fridge? what should i do?

thanks

Answer 1

once i threw the beers out of the fridge,i got in trouble..so talk to her and tell her how u feel about when she drinks...tell her the bad things tht can happen when she drinks...if she cares about u,she will stop.

Answer 2

Anthony,

I can relate to how hard it must be for you to have a parent who drinks.  Both of my parents were alcoholics, they have since passed away due to poor health.  I was never able to  convince either of them that their drinking was a problem.  Even when they knew it was hurting me, they were unable to control it.  No matter what you do or say you will not be able to control or even influence her drinking-that is her choice.  Instead, take control of the things that you can.  Such as, when you talk to her-stay away when she is under the influence.  Make a personal commitment to never drink or do drugs.  If you live with her-make plans for when you will move out (i.e. study hard to get the grades to go to college).  Throughout your life you will come in contact with people who have substance abuse problems.  It is good that you recognize her's and have contemplated ways in which to deal with it.  But don't kid yourself.  People make their own choices and nothing you do can alter that reality.

I know you love her and you can go on loving her and having a relationship with her.  Just avoid her during the times she drinks.

Answer 3

do what she does not like you to do and if she tells you to stop doing it tell her that your not stopping unless she stops drinking.

Answer 4

Just write a letter explaining how you feel and give it to her. Let another family member know whats going on so they too can talk to her. You can't stop a person from drinking but you can help them.

Answer 5

ive had the same problem with my dad pretty much my whole life. you cant control your parents and if you try to they will just hide the alcohol from you. telling them how you feel doesnt really work either, honestly theres nothing you can really do.

Answer 6

Oh gosh I hate to see you hurting like this.

My mom never acknowledged her drinking as a problem though it always was to me.

I never went so far as to throw out anything.  I left home finally  when I was 17 instead.

She has finally stopped drinking now as an elderly with bad health.  

All I know to tell you is that maybe someone in your family who feels the same way can help you with an intervention?  If you are on your own, maybe if you ever see it becoming dangerous to either of you, seek professional help and advice at your school or any local authority.

Answer 7

pour all the beers down and try communicating more something in her just feels the need to drink like life feels useless its the only way to stop the bad thoughts.

Answer 8

How does she act when she drinks?  Are you in any harm?  Well, those are just my concerns for you.  I don't have an answer to your direct problem, however, maybe you could talk to your counselor at school, or talk to another adult that is close to you that does or doesn't know your mom.

Answer 9

Don't throw out the hooch

Answer 10

No one will stop drinking until they want to! Alcoholism is a disease. Attend some AA meetings for the families of alcoholics. They will really help you to cope and help your mother.

Answer 11

it depends on how much she drinks.

she could simply be enjoying herself.. but if shes starting to depending on it.. just watch -- if its a lot all day then dont throw it out, maybe talk to someone else in your family or try to get her help. the worst thing to do is make her mad and throw everything out.

Answer 12

sounds like your mom is having a bit of a problem. Alcohol is a problem if it hurts her family that she drinks, and obviously it does for you.

I don't know how she would react but you could write her a letter or print out this page with your question and all the answers. If she doesn't really have a drinking problem then she will talk to you and understand you are worried. If she gets angry likelyhood she is having a problem is big.

If she reacts badly then I would tell her that either she gets help with you or that you will have to talk to your teacher, your dad if he is around, a relative or the parents of a friend. Let them know what is going on and how it is hurting you. Hopefully they will be able to help you and your mom.

My mom also never drank very much, but she only needed to drink 1/2 beer then she was in bed. She changed personality when she drank and eventually we found out that she actually was an alcoholic. She died of heart and liver failure when I was still a teenager. If I had spoken with someone earlier I might not have had to live through all the nasty times and nights and scenes, but I would have been able to move to my dads house or a friends house. The thing is if they want to destroy their lifes with alcohol there is little you can do. Sometimes they will get help if they see they might loose their children or loved ones, but not if you wait too long.

Answer 13

no let her get sick first before she decide to quit drinking beer.