Mom problems any advice?

Question

Ok so I'm 15 and my parents are divorced and I switch houses every week, when I'm at my dads place I'm really happy and always hanging out with the family, but when I'm at my moms shut myself up in my room until she yells at me to come out, she made me talk to her for three hours last night and I cried through two of them, she doesn't exacly do anything that I could stick child custody on her for but she makes me completely miserable I've cut myself before and I really hate myself when I'm around her I was gone for 2 months this summer and I really found out what life could be like being free from her and I can't believe the difference in the way I felt. I don't have the guts to try and get a custody change and I have talked to my dad and stepmom about it before but they won't do anything about it, she demands perfection of me which is something that i could never be. The other night she got mad at me and I told her to "chill out" and she flipped out I didn't think it was that disrespectful but she did, I don't know what to do any help would be really appreciated.

Answer 1

Wow.  I think that you should sit your father down, and tell him all of this again.  Maybe he too is afraid to confront your Mom, but it is his responsibility - not yours.  Good luck.

Answer 2

Okay it's time.

It's time for you to ask her to sit down with you for 3 hours and start with, "Mom .. I think it's time you should know how I feel. I appreciate it if you could remain silent and listen to what I say without being mad because I, as a human, deserves the respect to be listened to and emphathize with."

And you can tell her whatever you feel inside. Right down from your suicides attempts, to how it's like to be free, how she's been bugging you, etc.

But be mindful to use the right choice of words alright darling. If you ever need a virtual hug, here's one big warmth hug for you :)