Mom trouble, violin hatred, top priority!!!?

Question

i HATE the violin, i never want 2 see it again. i started in 4th grade with all my friends, & now in 8th grade my mom still wont let me quit. i need help!!

Answer 1

Oh boy, I have been there!  I started learning the violin when I was 7, but soon realised I didn't want to continue, but my father wouldn't let me quit either and I continued learning until I was 12 years old.  At the time, I was really glad that I got out of it, but now I wish I had appreciated it more and continued as I'm a little older and wiser now.  The only trouble now, is that I have tendonitis in both arms and although I would dearly love to take it up again and play it properly, I can't.  I know you are probably too young to understand this, but in years to come you will be glad you learnt to play this instrument.  Almost every piece of music you hear these days that really moves you will always have violins playing somewhere and the sound is beautiful.  It can move me to tears so easily.

Answer 2

I used ot hate playing the trumpet when I was a kid, until I hit high school when I had so many more opportunities.

Truthfully I really wanted to play the violin, and still do. But am unable to.

I personally say to ask yourself is it really the violin you hate playing, or the fact you are being told to play it for a set amount of time? If it is the music you dislike so strongly, talk to your teacher about mixing it up a bit in lessons. If it is the fact that you hate the instrument itself so much that it appalls you, ask your mother if the reason she wants you to keep playing is just so that you have some form of music in your life, if that is the case...maybe find something else to play that you two can agree on. If it is because she wants a positive activity for you in your life, attempt to come to a happy medium on something else....

If you only dislike it because all of your friend have quit, then maybe you should try your hardest at it, and see where you end up in high school...because if you are really good at playing, there should be no reason to stop because those who are great go further in life, opportunities for all-state, scholarships, grants...etc for college. If you realize that you are not really good no matter how you try...maybe just sit with it as a free credit basically for high school and then quit upon graduation.

As a side note...if you do sit down with your mom and discuss things with her, and she does let you quit. Don't just throw out the violin, make sure you sell it to a store (not a pawn shop), or privately to someone, or donate it to someone who is in need of a violin because they cannot afford one. That way while you are done using it, it can attempt to bring joy to others :P

Answer 3

dont give up i know its bad but u will never regreat it and will learn to love the music

Answer 4

As a musician, I say stick with it.  Music is incredible.  I regret that I didn't start making music that early.  If anything try switching to an instrument you'd like more.  Already having knowledge of music, you should pick up a lot of instruments quickly.

Answer 5

break it!

Answer 6

so quit

Answer 7

just continue anyway.  Music is VERY good for students.

Answer 8

Don't quit.  Some things that your parents force you to do you will someday thank them for.  My parents let me quit the piano and now I realize how wrong I was.

Add up how much time you spend at lessons and practice.  It's probably not that much.  

Suck it up.  You will one day be glad you did.

Answer 9

just quit.

Answer 10

Refuse.

Answer 11

my sis does not like playing piano, but she still does, cause my mom says she has to, sooo she has too, i guess same with you. i mean its fun right?

Answer 12

your mom just wants the best for you...she thinks you want to quit cuz everyone else has...and if that is your reasoning that is horrible.  Offer to take something else up instead of the violin and may she'll reason with you.  Parents want their kids involved so they aren't just being little lazy american children.

Answer 13

Ask your mom if she wants you to be happy. When she says yes, say that quitting the violin will make you happy. Parents and kids alike tend not to see the other side in these kind of situations.

Answer 14

Why don't you like it? I never did either but I went to a vacation place that was overwhelmed with it. So many variations! It doesn't always have to be soft and sweet or so conventional. These were anything but that. I love hearing the violin now. I constantly think of ot and wish to return just to hear it again. Have you tried playing a variation of your music? Maybe try a different beat or tempo. Or make up your own music with it that YOU like. If that doesn't make you happy, then you need to convince her she is wasting her time and money. Maybe try practicing a LOT whenever she is around. When she yells at you and tries to get you to practice in your room, remind her she REALLY likes it and you want to share it with her!!! It is never fun to do something you do not enjoy.

Good Luck!!!!

Answer 15

try to tell your mom that you dont like it or just dont go for it..good idea...and like go some where on your class time and do this for 5-6 times may be she willl quit it by her self......lol

Answer 16

Umm well just quit by yourself? Tell your teacher you want to quit.

Or everytime you have a violin lesson, tell your mom that you can't go cause you have a b-day party to go to, and have your friend come pick you up, or walk to your friends house.  

Answer 17

ask  you music teacher to speak to your mother.  Be prepared to substitute the violin for something else,  sports? writing?  

Answer 18

bust your violin, or consider a different teacher...

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Answer 19

talk to her tell her you really don't want to do it any more but suggest doing something else like a sport or a different instrument...she has to understand that you tried it and don't like it

Answer 20

talk to your mom about how she feels, why she feels it is important.  try to really understand her perspective why she would make this decision.  really try to listen empathetically to her viewpoint.  only after she agrees that you fully understand her feelings and needs on the matter (it will be that she wants the best for you).  then you can tell her how you feel about it - with no pressure for her to change her mind...just tell her what your feelings are for example "i get sick to my stomach when i have to sit down to practice" or "i feel like i'm going to explode when i walk into orchestra class"  so she understands how it is for you.  again don't pressure her to change her mind.  just let her know your feelings and needs.  she will probably not change her mind but you will understand each other better.  pick a quiet time to talk to her when you have some privacy and are alone.  try to breathe so you aren't all upset and emotional.  mainly focus on really trying to understand her viewpoint.

Answer 21

What do you hate? The time it takes to practise? The sound it makes? The sort of music you have to play? I can't do much about the first two, but if it's the third, have you thought of branching out? If you only play classical violin, try folk fiddle. There are are an awful lot of lively tunes out there. Try "Jigs Reels and Hornpipes" or "The Ceilidh Collection," or "The Fiddler's Tune Book" .  Get together with a guitarist and have some fun. I started violin when I was 9 (1959) and gave it up when I was 11, cos I hated it (I have Grade 1) to take up guitar.I went back to it  around 30 years ago to play folk music, and am still playing. I play in a barn dance band, and have an amazing £800.00 worth of electric fiddle. Go to Ted Brewer's website and watch his video of Vanessa-Mae playing Sabre Dance on electric violin.

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Answer 22

Well, what is wrong with playing the violin. Just keep playing, soon you might really enjoy it. I played the violin in the 4th grade too, but moved on to clarinet. I still loved the violin though!

Answer 23

Your mom probably thinks you will regret quitting one day. But there is nothing worse than being forced to do something and the more you are forced the more you hate it. Do you have something else you want to learn if you do maybe you can convince her you want to learn something new. You can go back to the beginning and try to remember how much fun it was in the beginning. Strings usually have a lot of concerts and when you get to high school they will be fun attending with your friends. Try again to get your mom to understand how much you hate it but if she won't listen try to make the most of it most adults I know that can play an instrument have never regretted learning to play one.

Answer 24

i have been playing cello since i was 6 and now im in hs and i still love it. but if you dont like it, just tell her you really dont want to take it. maybe tell her you will learn something else instead like dance class, or piano.  

Answer 25

tell her you dont like the violin and quit theres no point in playin something you dont like just like that  one bob dylan song

"Come mothers and fathers

Throughout the land

And don't criticize

What you can't understand

Your sons and your daughters

Are beyond your command

Your old road is

Rapidly agin'.

Please get out of the new one

If you can't lend your hand

For the times they are a-changin"