Mom troubles, please help with question?

Question

i know your mother is supposed to be the person you look up to in life. the person you wish you were. in my case, i can't stand the sight of her. i know in canada they have a system of doing things... how your child can move out into their own apartment for a short time to make the parent (s) realize their mistake and try to improve and better themselves as parents, and as people. i was wondering if they had that in the US and if so, what is it? (i dont want to call child services, i'm just concerned if i stay any longer it could ruin my chances of a successful future.) please help me. thank-you

Answer 1

your r not old enough to be out on your own. the only options you have is stay or call child services. thats it. good luck!  

Answer 2

school starts soon.

since you don't want to go to child services, you should definitely go to the school counselor on the first day of school.

even tho you didn't explain what the problem is, i sense your sincerity, and you need an adult who is in authority to help you navigate this transition.

Answer 3

My dear Halie...

OH LORD.... you poor "thing"... I feel WITH you... It seems as if your "folks" have more sympathy for all those "stupid" dogs than : FOR YOU !!! That must be awfull for you, honey ! I have lots of empathy for you !!! What I would recommend is....Do you have any relatives you could possibly go to ??? If not, then....you may check into "Child-Protective Services"...or some other agency that may assist you ?

I wish I could have you come here to stay with me. I love & cherrish children....raised 2 of my own...I would love to help you...-Any time, you're in need, feel free to contact me -ANYTIME- I always have "an opened ear" for you, Halie !!!!

Wish you all the best for the future. Greetings from Germany with all my love & care.... Annette***

Answer 4

try and see if you can move in with another relative or someone close to you..im sure thats alowed it happens all the time where the mother isnt capable of giving her child a safe enviroment....so yeah try that before you decide to live on your own....i mean your also to young to get a leggal job..and if you do its not good pay

Answer 5

i don't know of anything things like that, but if you find out please let me know. i'm going through pretty much the same thing, alcholic mom, bipolar, drug addict, and my dad is working in China trying to support us while she just blows it like its toilet paper or something. i'm so sick of it. i feel for you, i know exactly what your going through, i'm a year older than you, and it sucks that were tied down and stuck to these people all because of a number, a number that means absolutley nothing when you already act like your more resonpsible then your parents.

Answer 6

What troubles are you having with your mom?  Because people will (and already have) read this and will think that you are just being a typical 14 year old who hates their mom for no good reason.

Unfortunately in the US, I do believe that you can't be an emancipated minor until you are 16.  And along with that, you have to have a very very very good excuse (and might have to get some child services organizations involvoed to provide proof) as to why it would be more beneficial for you to live on your own instead of your mom.

Is there another relative you can live with instead?  Regardless of whether you are a very mature 14 year old or not, you shouldn't have to grow up that fast.  Enjoy it before you really have to get out in the world and start paying bills and all of that not so fun stuff.

Answer 7

what has your mom done?  The problem with that system is that most kids just "hate" their parents because their parents are looking out for them and are strict on what they can and can't do.  Even know now days too many parents let their kids do what ever they want and those are the problem parents.  If it is because your mom has strict rules, then count your lucky stars, it will help you grow to be a better person.

At your age, no they will not let you.  IF there are bad things going on in your house (drugs, abuse, etc) call children and youth, they can even just do in-home counsiling before they do drastic things like remove you from your home.  You have to remember that living on your own also consist of paying your own rent, gas, electric, phone, (cable if you want it) and food bills....this is a lot more than you could make on a minimum wage job, and with your age, most states will let you work more than like 20 hours a week if even that....a lot of states you can't even work until you are 16......ok now your mom needs to put her children fist, not her brother, so i would call children and youth first and explain the problems....they should give her the choice to remove him or have you go to a relatives home....they will try to fix things before putting you into a foster home or anything.

Answer 8

is there anyone you can live with for a while? like friends and stuff?

ya i had problems just like you, mom was a pothead, her boyfrend was a crack head, and stuff...so i just moved to my dads but i've had to cope with that for 12 years.

all i did was stay in my room, come down for meals, go to school, and try to be OUT of the house as much as possible!

best hopes for you!

Answer 9

how old are you? If you are mature enough and financially able to you can file through the courts to become an emancipated minor.

Answer 10

try talking to your mom and tell her that you are going to try to better your relationship and you would appreciate it if you could earn her support. She will thing you sound like the adult and that she needs to act more like a mother. When you guys start to fight just walk away and say yes maam. if you are religious, i know it really helps to read the bible. It should help you realize that a stupid fight is so small considering how big and great God is.

Answer 11

Well you have not really said what was so terrible about your mother.....we might be able to help you a little more.  

Answer 12

oh, i feel bad that i dont have the best answers..

but, im pretty sure, that you can get "divorced" from your parents.

which is basically the same thing as you said about what they do in canada.

thing is, you'd have to go to court.

and contact DFACS,  [er however you spell it.]

i'm really sorryy..

also, you could maybe talk to your school counselor, or just a teacher at your school. i'm pretty sure they deal with situations like that a lot. and i would imagine they'd know what to do.

Answer 13

report it

Answer 14

There is such a thing as being emancipated from your parents, however you need to explain exactly what the problem is with your mother if you want to get truly intelligent advice. A lot of kids don't like their parents, but don't have a truly legitimate reason to want to be emancipated from them. It's a normal adolescent thing. I was the same way when I was your age. Explain your problem in more detail. If your problem is true abuse or neglect, then you should call child services, no matter if you really want to or not.

Answer 15

don't be afraid to call anyone able to help you if your parent is hindering your future.  that's why those organizations are there.  

Answer 16

First off, you CAN NOT take care of yourself at 14.  Ok sure maybe you can wash clothes, cook, clean, etc. but where is your money going to come from, where are you going to live?  Your not old enough to buy or rent anything, you don't have transportation and you are too young to work.  Are you starving to death?  Have you gone to bed hungry without food because there is absolutely nothing in the house to eat?  If you have a roof over your head and food to eat every night then your mom must be doing at least a few things right.  I know you don't like the dog sitting that your mom does, but it does bring money in the house and pays bills, and buys food to eat.  I am sure your mom isn't just loving cleaning dog c**p up all the freaking time.  Maybe she isn't perfect, but sounds to me like she is trying, you should talk to her alone and calmly express your concerns, but she is correct at your age she doesn't have to explain her spending habits to you unless you are starving, running around naked, sick with no medicine, etc.    

by the way: I would of taken your toys away too.  really mature 14 year olds who think they can live on their own and support themselves wouldn't of whined for a full day over stepping in dog sh""!!