Moms, after you had a baby, did you find yourself bonding more with your own mom

Question

My mother was murdered when I was 4 and I was raised by my dad and step-mom...needless to say, I had a very bad relationship with my step-mom growing up cause she was mean, abusive, always put me down and so forth...when I had my first child I was very happy and everything was good (he is a boy) but when I had my second, who is a girl, I fell into a very bad depression...I was so sad to think that now I have a daughter and I never knew my own mother and just thinking about all the mild stones that I will share with my child, puberty, boys, fashion and hair styles, first crush, first boyfriend, first kiss, first dance, quinceniera, prom...ect...and it just broke me down.....I was soo sad for the longest time, also because my kids would have been my mom's only grand kids and she is not here to enjoy them...and it made me sad cause she wasn't with me on my important momments...

I always wonder if the experience my kids have with grandma Sara (step-mom) would be any different than if grandma Marta was here...i had no one to come help me after the birth of my kids...and so forth..and i always wondered if I would have had a tight bond with my mom like I hope my daughter and I will have...

Answer 1

well i am 19 weeks pregnant.... and i've found that i'm bonding with my own mother much more while pregnant then i have have before!

i'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mother at such a young age :( no child should have to go through that.

i hope (if i have a daughter) we also have a tight bond then my mom and i currently do....

take care!

Answer 2

My real mother left me when I was four.  I was raised by my step mom who always favored her own daughters over me.  She wasn't the best step mom but over time, especially as I got older, she started being a lot better towards me.  Just about the time that I started having a really good relationship with her, two months before my first son was born, she died from a stroke.  I miss her.  I feel like we could've been a lot closer after my son was born.  Now I'll never know what that will be like.

Answer 3

Me and my mom were never close when I was younger.  After my baby, we became closer because I visited her more with the baby, they babysat, she came over alot in the beginning, etc.  So the relationship was better, but I didn't like say sorry about my teenage years or anything.

After 5 months of this, they moved to Florida, and now our relationship isn't so great anymore.  I always think about what it would be like if they stayed around.  I'm thinking you don't have a mother in law, because you didn't mention her.  I find that my mother-in-laws (one is a step) are the best thing that ever happened to me and my kids.

Answer 4

i apologized after one week of having my baby.  oh the h**l i put her through when i was a teenager .  hated her for years now we are best friends

Answer 5

MY MOM AND I ARE CLOSE BUT HERE RECENTLY I'VE BEEN GETTING TOLD THAT SHE AND MY DAD COULD DO A BETTER JOB THAN I AM RAISING MY KIDS.....I AM A SINGLE MOTHER AND I HAVE A 7 AND 1 YRS OLD AND I DO THE BEST I CAN...WHEN I FIRST HAD THEM SHE HELPED ME OUT ALOT AND I APPRECIATE THAT BUT NOW I AM ON MY OWN AND CAN'T SEEM TO DO ANYTHING RIGHT