Moms (and Dads) would you be mad?

Question

I work at a daycare (quitting in 3 weeks), and I am in charge of the toddlers. One little boy likes to take his shoes off ALL the time...seriously, like if you put them on, they're back off within seconds. Yesterday I was taking the kids outside and after we got out there, I realized he didn't have shoes on. We had left the room in such a hurry, and I have FIVE toddlers to keep up with, all by myself, I had just forgotten. Well, no big deal I thought, his parents have sent him without shoes before, and it is a clean fenced in playground (with grass, no rocks), so I just let him play. Well, when I was bringing him back in, it came to one of my co-workers attention that he had no shoes on and had been brought out that way. She said (in a VERY nasty tone) "OH NO, You CANNOT bring them out without shoes on!" I know it is going to be a huge issue when I go back to work today, but I just don't see the problem. His feet weren't hurt, and he had a good time playing. Would you be mad ?

Answer 1

personally i wouldn't be mad but I would prefer they had shoes on

Answer 2

Well girl, may be mad a little bit.

This child seem not to wear shoe at home. So he get used to that habit. So it is not his fault.

IT would be make your fault because you did not pay attention. I would say OK for him for no shoe in door but out door that should be on the list i even make sure have hat too if out side is hot.

Well, it only a mistake so you are forgiven. Keep up the good work

Answer 3

I would not have been mad at all.  Mine is 2 and VERY headstrong.  I went to pick her up the other day and she was in the baby excersaucer (she is very very small for her age) and the lady was all apoligetic saying that she just wanted in there so bad and kept saying "please?" with puppy dog eyes.....she did not want to break her little heart (mine is a sensitive toddler....very feelings-based) so she went ahead and put her in and my daughter LOVED it and wanted to stay in it.....the worker was so nervous I would be mad.......but I laughed so hard!  My mom is storing our excersaucer at her house and each adn every time we go down there my daughter gets in it and plays for like a half hour.......she loves it.  

I was not at all mad, yet the worker thought I would be because she is too old for it.....kids will be kids and as long as the parents are accepting of thier child's baseline behavoir (his not wanting to ever keep shoes on) then there should be no problem.  good luck!

Answer 4

If the play yard was safe from rocks and things that might poke him, then No, I wouldn't be mad.  I let my kids run around barefoot at home a lot.  It's called being a kid.  As long as they can't get hurt.

Answer 5

i wouldn't be extremely mad; but playing with no shoes is against many child care state laws. it is poor hygene and can possible be harmful to a child. Just don't do it again and maybe have a talk with the parents about making sure the child is sent with shoes on his feet.

Answer 6

if it was my own child i would not be mad at all as long as the outside area was safe for my daughter to play in without shoes on wich you have clearly explained is. i quite often pick up my daughter from pre school and she has no shoes on as she absolutly hates them...infact non of the children are made to wear shoes and the majority of children come straight into the setting in the mornings take them off and put them in the shoe box. i dont think you have done anything wrong you knew the area was safe and therfore the child was too. i would much prefer my daughter to be out having a good time and feeling comfortable.

Answer 7

thats stupid!! i wouldnt care, socks are so cheap.. and aparently he doesnt like his shoes or something maybe they are uncomfortable! dont worry just try and get out of there! i really dont think that you did anything wrong!

Answer 8

Yes, and he has to learn to keep their shoes on anyway.

Because next time you might not be so lucky and it only takes 1 time, there is a reason the Daycare has rules.

They need to protect the children, and you and the daycare from lawsuits, if something would have happened, the parents could sue YOU and the DAYCARE.

so, it is not a risk worth taking, even if it seems simple.

Daycare is not home, there are insurance policies and other factors, as well as, health issues.

I can see why they would be upset.

Answer 9

If the play yard was all grass and very soft at that then I wouldn't be mad, I let my daughter go outside in the yard without shoes.

Answer 10

well if your daycare operates this way on a regular basis then i would quit too.

first the ratio is 3 to 1 on toddlers NO EXCEPTIONS.

second the first time the child was brought without shoes then thats the first time you call the parents to take him home if he does not own shoes. its strict policy that all children wear shoes. they cannot send him without shoes and its your responsibility to tell them that.

if you had help and had been in ratio and would have handled the situation the first time then it would have easy for you today.

though some parents say that its not a problem, from a business standpoint and from government regulations standpoint its a huge issue.

let the daycare know that you do no have to handle 5 toddlers alone and let the parents know that he must have shoes on his feet when he enters your room or he cannot stay for that day. (in my room its closed toe shoes only)

good luck

Answer 11

If I had sent him to school before without socks, I wouldn't be offended. Don't worry about it!

Answer 12

I wouldn't be upset because I let my daughter play without shoes sometimes. Besides, the parents already know he always takes them off AND they've brought him without shoes before, so not much you can do about it. Like you said, you have five children to look out for and the last thing on your mind is shoes.

Answer 13

If I sent my kids without shoes and knew he didn't like to wear any probably not but Iam sure it breaks policy.  In case something were to happen Iam sure they could hold you and the center responsible. That age group can be pretty tricky!!

Answer 14

Well, hopefully mom and dad understand that their son doesn't like shoes and hopefully they can laugh at the situation.

But if they don't.  Just let them know that you will do a better job of making him wear his shoes all the time, but maybe they need to invest in a pair of shoes that he can't take off by himself.

Sometimes Moms and Dads depend on daycare workers to solve the problems that they don't have time to fix at home.

To hear that you were unable to and maybe missed a step (noticing his socks while still inside) might make them mad.  Just don't make excuses.  Apologize and let them know you will do a better job in the future.  Nobody likes excuses! Good luck!

Answer 15

I think your co-worker was thinking about liability.  What if something happened?  He cut his foot, stubbed his toe,....

Answer 16

kids play outside barefoot all the time. its no big deal, I don't think the parents would be upset if they knew the circumstances...I think your co-worker is a bit of a ****** and you should watch out for your job cuz she might want to cause you more problems.

Answer 17

OK you work at a daycare, it's "your" responsibility!!!!!!!! to keep the childs shoes on.  Give him candy like brib him into keeping his shoes on especially while he is outside.  He can get hurt even though you think it's safe.  Your not 100% sure he will be safe outside.  The parents can sue you and the daycare for not taking care of this child.  Even though the parents have sent the child without shoes, keep a pair at school for him and some extra socks.  Your are the worker for this daycare (teacher) teach him to keep his shoes on that part of your job really.  And the policy of the daycare is strict. I'm really surprised they didn't give you the guidelines they should of or something to read on it.  (policy) that is probably why the lady as saying what she did to you.  5 kids is nothing compared to some of the teaches in the school have 30 kids to look after!    There could be a rusty nail out there that he could step on. you don't know.  teaching the kids is rewarding. why did you start a job in daycare if you didn't care about kids? and why are you quitting?  talk to the parents and find out a way to teach the child to keep his shoes on starting with outside.

Answer 18

Not a big deal. I wouldnt care at all I gave up a long time ago on getting them to keep their shoes on. Maybe his parents let him play outside with no shoes on and thats why he doesnt want them on. If his parents are reasonable at all they wont care either. People are making such a big deal werent you a kid once iam a mother of 4 and still play outside with my kids with no shoes on. If your in the grass its not going to be to hot. If there isnt rocks, glass etc.. Why worry?

You sound like an excellant provider keep up the good work!

Answer 19

Personally.... I would be upset, just becasue grass stain is hard to get out of socks, If the parents have sent him without shoes before, then I see no problem.... Make sure he has shoes on next time. You never know if there will be a bee sitting there.

Answer 20

my son always takes his shoes off!! i personaly would not care.  but if it is a state regulated daycare-thier might be laws agiast that. If a child WAS to hurt himself-the parent might be able to sue the facility for not preventing it with shoes.

Answer 21

Annoyed may be. But not mad. It is understood that kids just love to play. But next time, ask the parents if they mind. It is also true that the bare feet can get hurt easily.

Answer 22

whats the ground... assfault sand woodchips or grass... grass and sand ,no, the rest, yes...

Answer 23

I wouldn't be upset. MY 4 year old hates shoes and 90% of the time goes outside to play barefoot.  

I wouldn't let him go barefoot anywhere I thought was unsafe, but I think playing in a fenced in grassy area would be fine. I'm sure that the parents deal with him taking his shoes off all the time, if I were you I would have maybe said something about it to which ever parent picked him up. That way they know what happened and heard from you instead of someone else (that doesn't know the whole story)

Answer 24

id tell the kid to friggen learn how to wear f***ing shoes.

Answer 25

i hate shoes, and i know my daughter will too,l so i do not see a problem with it, wearing shoes is not natural, the kid doesnt want to, so what? if the parents have sent him without shoes its fine.  i would not be upset at all