Moms and dads-advice please.?

Question

I have a 9 yr old that has always been demanding. She's talkative and always , always talking to me. Asking me questions....

If it was just chatter that would be fine, but she needs me to answer her all the time, pulling my attention away from what i'm doing. I give her lots of attention but never ENOUGH. My problem now is, I am starting to cringe when she walks in the room, I also am starting to withdrawl. This is bad, very bad. I need to fix this issue. Do I fix myself? If so how. Do I fix my 9 yr old, if so how. If this is unfixable, how do I go on. Thanks.

Answer 1

Have her write down all her questions in a notebook and set aside some time every night to answer them, maybe go online with her and research them together.

Answer 2

Your 9 year old isn't broken so there is nothing to "fix"  your 9 year old is a child, more than likely going through puberty.  YOU are this child's parent, obviously YOU made that choice.  If you didn't WANT to have to answer questions then you shouldn't have CHOSEN to be a parent.

Answer 3

You should fix yourself.  The kid has questions and you should be the one to answer them the best way you can.  Ok I know you probably don't know everything, and that's when you find the answer together.

Take advantage of these days that she wants to be with you, it will end soon.  I too had a daughter like that and it didn't last very long and she was out looking for boys, cigarettes, and driving her friends around.   Now she is married and lives 100 miles away.

She needs to be able to get her knowledge from you and spend time with you, enjoy her while you can.

Answer 4

tell her you will answer her when you are done with what you are doing or let her use the computer to aswer questions

Answer 5

A good response to her questions might be to teach her how to look up stuff herself. It will teach her self-reliance, and you can praise her problem-solving skills instead of feeding her dependency on you. You're right about attention being never enough. It's time she learned that you are not at her beck & call. You have needs and rights, but only if you assert them. In her best interest, of course.

Answer 6

I think you should get a bulletin board and put it in her room or a common area in the house. When she has a question that requires a lot of thought, tell her to put it on the board so that when you have free time she and you can figure it out. Set aside some time each day to go over any questions she has compiled. Good luck!