I am 16, and I need advise about my mother. I am not trying to talk down about her, everything I am saying is the truth, and the way I feel.
My mom told me that she was abused by my grandmother, but I always remember her being the most loving person i the world. Even to my mom. So I am not sure if I should beliver her. But she always told me when I was little that she never wants to be anything like my grandma. but in my eyes, she is worse then any story I have heard abut her.
She is a very 2faced person. When my boyfriend is here, she will say "Rachel, your 16! Go out of the house! Have fun!" But when I ask her, she yells at me and says that all I do is think about myself, and I never do anything to help her. But I do! I clean the house (exept her room and bathroom), feed all the animals(dogs, cats, rabbits, chickens, rats, turtles, birds,fish and ducks) cook for the family, clean up her messes and more. I do not understand why she does not see anything that I do! And If I forget something, like a rabbits water, she takes my phone, and grownds me for a week!
I do not feel like i can talk to her about ANYTHING. She does not know me at all. When she does cook, she makes food that I can not eat, so I end up not eating that day.And when she goes shopping, all she gets is ice cream and yogurt. She lays in bed all day and eats. And then she gets mad that my boyfriend brings me food. And when she sees that, she yells and says that he is pus*sy whipped.
She always calls me lazy, and dirty, and says that I do not do anything around the house or for anybody else.
Last night, we went to best buy, and she bought a big, flat screen tv, tivo, and more for her new room. And she just looked at me, and said... and I am not lying "you can have the old sh*t. you dont deserve anything nice."
One day she will tell me that she loves me more then anything in the world, and the next she will slap me, and tell me I am worthless. This has been going on science i was 5. We used to get into PHYSICAL fights. We both have scars from eachother, and when ever anybody rases their hand, I flinch. She always tells me that she is a good mom, but I am just the bad daughter. I am not going to say that i have not dont anything to her, i have yelled at her (but dosent every 16 year old). but thats all. She chaces me to my room, corners me, and says that if I say anything to her, she will rip the ring out of my lip and other stuff. And she always calls me fat. I wear a size 5 pants, and she MAKES me buy size 11. and size small shirts (medium sometimes becuse of my chest) and she makes me get a large. She makes me feel hoibal about myself. I actually cry myself to sleep, at 16 because of her.
Even when I am out of the house, she makes me come home at 10 on weeknights, and 12 on weekends, and if I am 2 minutes late, I am grounded for 2 days. I dont knkow what to do.
I have tried talking to her, and nothing works, she yells and says "well you will be 18 soon, so you can get the f**K out of this da*n house, and live yourlife without me! I am a darn good mom!" and walks away.
She never listens to anything I have to say. and I feel like I am just a slave in her house. something to clean, and cook.
How can I talk to my mom withought her getting mad? an effective way. I can not live like this for the next year and 6 months. Yes, I am counting down untill I can get out of here. My boyfriend already has a place for me to live when i am 18. (ohh.. any she tells me that she will call the cops on me if i try to move out when i am 18, and she will have me sent to jail)
I can not live like this. I feel worse and worse everyday. I need to talk to her, and i need things to change. I would live with my dad, but he has his own family, and I do not want to partude, adn i would miss all my friends and my animals.
PLEASE GIVE ME IDEAS ON HOW I CAN CHANGE THE WAY THINGS ARE IN MY HOUSE. I REALLY NEED THINGS TO CHANGE.
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