Moms with jobs outside of the house, if you had the opportunity....?

Question

If you had the opertunity to be a stay at home mom, would you?

I have always worked outside of the home and raised kids alone. Now in a seriouse relationship, "he" says the best place for me is at home with my kids, because that's whats best for them. And results have proved his point on the matter, and the first couple of weeks was nice; however now I am going CRAZY!!! Simply because I feel as if life is passing me by, and I miss working. Any one with oppinions, experience on this or insite would be helpfull and much appriciated.

By the way, the finace situation is not at all the problem, all ends are covered.

Thanks to all who answer!

Answer 1

The best thing for children, as long as their needs are being met, is that their parents model healthy decisions in their own lives.  

If the healthy thing for you is to get some time doing things besides taking care of home & family, then you should do so.  Don't you want your own children to responsibly & joyously do what makes them feel fulfilled in their own lives, when they are grown?  

I'm sure you don't want them to do whatever their spouse/partner says they should do, without taking into account their own needs & desires.  

So, sit down & talk to your partner about this.  Brainstorm different solutions.  Maybe he could be the stay-at-home parent.  Or, you could get a part-time job of some kind.  Or, you could work on opposite shifts.  

There are many choices in life, many ways to responsibly raise your family.  Work together to find the way that works best for your family.

Answer 2

i work and i love it my husband tells me all the time that i should stay at home. but i love to shop and i love to spend without asking for money or being questioned. i also love the break it give me time to communicate with other people and then come home and love my daugther up. i only work part time so i spend the majority of the day home with her anyways

Answer 3

I work a few hours for 3 days a week and I really enjoy it, I would not change that. When I was home alone with my kid 7 days a week I was really bored. Maybe you could find a job say a couple of hours a day, or maybe 2 days a week or something so that you are still with your kids most of the time but het some time to be with adults to.

Answer 4

Definitely.

I would love to be able to stay home and spend time with my son.  

I'd join mommy and me groups, playdates and all that stuff.

*Sigh, it's nice to dream.*  Finances will not allow me to do this.

Answer 5

I feel that it's the woman's choice to work or not. A woman at home with the kids I feel is better because you pay attention to them more. Just enjoy your kids. Stay at home, spend time with them, and enjoy them. Believe it or not - bills don't matter, work doesn't matter - your kids matter. Enjoy them, love them, be with them.

Now, if you feel you must work, then I guess I have no place to disagree - but I think he's right, especially if the finances allow.

Answer 6

no i love my job  my hubby stays at home  and looks after the kids and dose a very good job if i must say so

Answer 7

Being a SAHM, i completely understand what you are saying. It is a lot harder then people think. But also, if you are not happy then it will turn to the kids and they will pick up on that. If you need to work to stay sane by all means work. It does not mean you have to go out and work full- time... maybe a part time job will help you out a lot. "he" needs to accept and understand your side and be supportive.... Good luck :)

Answer 8

I think its a womens choice. But would I. Yes. Yes. Yes. Mostly because what I do for a living isn't my passion in life anyways. I hate working for a corperation, having a boss, and having a schedule. but I do it because it makes ends meet. However I always wanted to write a book or screen plays. This of coarse is something I can do from home and if I had someone backing me up economicly that would be awsome. A lot of stay at home moms have little things they do like that on the side. My mom used to sew. Maybe you can figure out what your passion is and work at those things from home. If you like working with people, consider volenteering as a teachers assistent at your childrens school or visiting with the elderly in you neibhorhood. My mom used to be very active in our church. Now a days people are to busy to do things like that because of  thier work.Also consider the meny different ways you can work from your home. However if what you did for a living is what you loved to do. You should talk to your husband and try to explain this and why, maybe he will have a change of heart once he sees how important it is to you.

Answer 9

Nope, I could never stay at home with my children.  My husband also thinks a stay-at-home parent is best, but he also agrees that the best mother is a happy mother.  I would be miserable if I stayed at home and that I am wasting my life (just like you feel). I have career aspirations, and I am happy when I achieve them.  Please do not let a man control your life - if you are not happy at home, go back to work.  If he loves you, he will understand.  If he tries to force you to stay at home, discuss how you feel he is being controlling... and take it from there.