Moral obligation to warn others about STDs?

Question

My ex husband totally fooled me for over a year before I found out what he really was. He lied to me and gave me some STDs that he knew he had. He admitted he'd known for over 25 years and had unprotected s*x with dozens and dozens of women without ever telling them. I was horrified to find out what kind of monster I married! I realize that many of his one night stands can only blame themselves for having unprotected s*x with a stranger, but many of his former girlfriends may have been innocent (like me!) I found out that my ex kept a list of conquests by year, (he turned out to be a very sick s*x addict!) So, I know the names and years of dozens of women he may have infected. I feel like they have a right to know. Since he doesn't have the class or morals to tell people he's endangering them, should I have the moral obligation to warn all of the women on his list? Just the fact that he has this list is so creepy!

Answer 1

I would tell them, that is the right thing to do.

so sorry that this happened to you, but now you can help others that this creep hurt, he deserves to have it rot off

all the best

Answer 2

report him ,

Answer 3

If it were me, I would definitely notify those women, and I'd notify the health department about your ex, if they don't already know.  Knowingly infecting others is, in some states, illegal behavior, punishable with jail time.

Answer 4

Contact your local health department, and explain the situation.  They may want to contact the women.  Your ex husband's behavior, while also being outrageous and unethical, may also be criminal in some states.  I know that if a person has HIV and does not tell someone before having s*x with them, the person can be prosecuted.

Answer 5

Try putting yourself in these other women's shoes (and I totally commend you for having sympathy for most of them!)  Would YOU want to be notified that some sleazeball you slept with once might have given you an STD?  I think most would just so they can get themselves tested to put their minds at ease.

You have two options:  Bear the burden of letting these women know (the higher but harder road) or Do nothing (the lower but easier road) knowing that they could have prevented further infections, but c'est la viep when sleeping with a creep!

Answer 6

The moral obligation was HIS and not yours.  Are your reasons for wanting to contact these women out of anger or genuine concern for them??  Depending on what type of std he has it might be best contact the Health Department and let them contact the women.

Good luck..it's a rotten situation no matter how you look at it...