More less venting but would like imput?

Question

my daughter is 4 months old and me and my fiance have been living in our own home for 3 years now and our house is so quiet and dark come night time and recently we had to move in with his parents because we needed help and they are up later and I am wondering how this can affect my baby? I feel like this is bad because we are going to be here for a while to get back on our feet and I just feel like its going to be hard on my daughter once she starts school and stuff because here we cannot go to bed until 1-2 am and this is our first week staying here and she wont go to bed until all lights are off and everyone is quite and i just dunno I feel like im a bad mother but I have no where else for us to live and his family is helping us out and all...I guess im just venting and thinking about the future

Answer 1

she just needs to learn how to fall asleep when there are lights and noise she will adjust soon.  I know it's a stressful situation so just concentrate on having a goal to get out on your own soon.  write a plan and try to follow it.  you can apply at most jobs online these days, so do that and you should have an interview with in 2wks and be out in less than 2months or sooner if your man gets a job soon to.  Good luck

Answer 2

i think your daughter will adjust to the sounds and lights. she just isnt used to it, but when babies get tired enough they will go to sleep. it will become normal to her, just give it a little time. I dont think that finding a place for your family to live makes you a bad mother at all. you are doing the best you can. life throws curves sometimes and you learn how to deal.just remember that this situation is temporary and your daughter has a WHILE before she will be starting school so i wouldnt even be worrying about that part. take each day at a time. and why not try talking to your in-laws if the sleeping problem is still occurring, im sure they care that their grand-daughter gets adequate sleep.

Answer 3

.... You live in a livingroom? ... Lol!

Answer 4

You are staying there to just get back on your feet, right? And your daughter is 4 months old? And you are worried about her sleep schedule when she starts school?

If you are planning on staying at your in-laws house for about 5 or 6 years, then that's "not getting back on your feet." If you are planning on staying for a few months, just to save up some money, then you are just stressing yourself out.

At 4 months, she is going to get the sleep she needs, whether it's at 9 at night, or 1 a.m. Also, having a baby in the house might actually wear the grandparents out, and you will all go to bed earlier. Either way, no need to worry. Sounds like your at a stressful time in your life, what with having to move out of your house, and your freaking out about things that aren't that important. Believe me, we've all been there.....LOL

Answer 5

your baby is only four months old but you're wondering how this new nighttime will affect her when she starts school?  relax.  you're not a bad mother.  your daughter will adjust eventually, as will you.  and hopefully it won't be long before you and your fiance are back on your feet and can have your own place again.

best of luck.

Answer 6

so your gonna be living in their living room until your daughter is in school, thats quite awhile, but I guess since you guys have to live there you have to deal with their life style, thats what happens when you live under someone elses roof