Mother's online affair???

Question

I found out a few weeks ago that my mom was having an online affair! She keeps telling me personal details about this man and I don't know what to do now. It's making me sick to my stomach to think that she is cheating on my dad like this and asking me to hide it. It's mom and dad's anniversary on Sunday and I can't help but think "what a freakin sham of a marriage". How could this happen and what am I suppose to do?? Do I tell him and ruin their marriage further? Or do I pretend I don't know and lie to my dad every day?? Help if you can! Thanks!!!

PS: THEY MAKE SPECIAL DATES ONLINE TO HAVE CYBER s*x...IT'S DISGUSTING AND MY BROTHER FOUND AN OPEN YAHOO MESSAGE THAT DISCUSSED IT.

Answer 1

i think dad should b told to ck out ure moms email..and it  doesnt matter about there annversary cause soundS like your mom is havinG to much fun with the on line looser,your dad has a right to no,,and u cAN  do it in such away you will not b involed,,u pull up ure moms email n then u ask dad whats this then when he starts reading u leave the room,cause he will b embrassed,,but he would TErribly hurt iF he knew u n your bro,new all about ure mom,,EVEN THOU ITS YOUR MOMS FAULT SHE LET ALL THIS GE STARTED,,N LET U OR URE BRO NO ANYTHING ABOUT IT,,PEACE

Answer 2

I am sorry that you have to deal with this.  It has to be awful.

First, let me say that your mom isn't doing anything that is out of the ordinary.  Online cyber s*x has become a huge pass of time. This is the cadillac of adult film watching - it is an interactive non-invasive way to be who you fantasize about being without being judged.  Kinda like going to a costume party. (smaller scale)  I am not sure how old you are, so sorry if I seem to be talking a bit scarce.  

Second, I would sit your mom down and express to her that you don't appreciate her talking to you about this.  Express to her you do not like it and it unfair to your father.  As far as telling your dad, that is a tough one.  There are a lot of couples that are into this type of thing, and they do not view it as cheating.  You have to remember, you don't know this person personally - it is pretend play in their minds.  

you maybe suprised to find out that your dad is doing the same thing - they may use it as foreplay or as an intimacy enhancer.

Tread carefully - Ask your mom to stop sharing details with you!

Answer 3

I think your mother needs help. She has sucked you into this and someday soon you will be expected to pick a side, Shame on your mother.

Answer 4

Talk to her and yell at her! Dont just go along with it. OR!! You get unplug a cord in your computer and hide it so the computer doesn't work!  Start crying and yelling at how disscusted you are at her! Make her feel guilty and ashamed.  I cry to make my parents feel bad when the are angry at me and it works everytime!  Im so sorry to hear about this and hope the best comes for you! GL!

Answer 5

obviously she needs more sexual fun than her marriage can provide... tell her you aren't interested... and leave it at that..

Answer 6

I think you should make it clear that you do not want to know about it but do not tell your dad. It is their marriage and it is lacking somewhere but as their child, it is not your place to do anything.  

Answer 7

You should totally tell you dad! I know that it will create a fight, etc. but this is an important issue and you shouldn't be forced to lie to your dad. Best wishes.