Mother-In-Laws please help ?

Question

My mother in law is always telling me what to do and how to do it. She even tries to tell me what I should do as far as getting a job goes. But what really bothers me is that she tries to tell me how to be a mother! God forbid I forget a toy when we bring her saucer and I swear she looked away and gave me the dirtiest look. As if looking away I wouldn't be able to see her or something. She's just really getting on my nerves & I know some day soon I'm just gonna explode in her face. My question is how can I talk to her without stepping on neither of our toes??!?!?

(everyone in the family just lets her be and lets her say what she says and they don't care because "that's how she is" but I don't want to just let someone dictate my life)

Answer 1

Your husband needs to talk to his mother and tell her to back off.

Answer 2

I am a man and we love our mother. We also love our wife.

So you should carry on the relationship without exploding in her face.

Answer 3

It's a tough thing when it comes to mother in laws trust me mine drive me insane she tries to control me my man and everyone around her i don't think she realizes. but i just try to stay calm or i go in the other room and tell my hubby and he says ignore it :( i wish i had better advice but that's the nature of MOTHER IN LAWS just promise yourself you wont be that mother in law when your kids are grown

xoxo

Answer 4

I am not a mother - in -law, but I have one, so I know how they can be. My mother in law only speaks french.. she would get on my nerves so bad that I would end up crying the whole time she would visit.

My husband though I was completely crazy, I would tell him that she talks about me and he never believed me. I sat HIM down and told him exactly how I felt. Your husband needs to respect your feelings, tell him how you feel. Tell him that she makes you feel like ****.

I did, i made my husband confront his mother. After that talk she has been nothing but nice to me. She use to roll her eyes when I would do something with my daughter that she did not approve of, but on the other hand so does my mother. When it comes to your child, its your choice, your decision.. and if she don't like it the h**l with her.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

I would suggest you perfect the skill of letting her know you hear her advice but then going on and doing things your own way.  It's amazing that it works with so many people.  When she tells you what to do listen and give her noncommittal replies like "Mmmm-Hmmm, I'll think about that".  Then actually think about her advice and if it's good, follow it.  If it's bad ignore it and do what you wanted to in the first place.  Let everything else roll off you back like rain off a duck.

Answer 6

No I think you need to set boundaries with mom in law.She needs to know that you are a grown woman.And in your house,that you run things there.And you appreciate her advice and your consider it if needed.There's no tip toeing around it,what about how you feeling.Let her know.