Mother Making rude comments....?

Question

My mom is always telling me how im looking "pudgy" or fat...and she says she can tell ive put on weight but i havent. Why is she saying this? I know im not because i have guys that i work w/ that tell me im not, and they tell me everything. My mom says that my dad agrees, but hes never said anything...Why do you think she says these things to me? It hurts me and really makes me kinda wonder how big i really am..

Answer 1

So if you haven't put on any weight don't listen to her. Tell her that she is wrong that your scale is right and that's all there is to it. Let me ask a question Is she putting on a couple of extra pounds. Maybe she is feeling jealous. Are you getting a lot of attention are you going out and having fun. there could be many reasons your mother is saying the things she is. the best thing to do is tell her that you haven't gained any weight and if she keeps it up try to ingore her or tell her you will not come over so much anymore if she keeps it up. Then stick to it and limit your visits for a while. Then give her another chance.And of course it hurts badly she is your mother

Answer 2

say "hey mum, shut up!!!"

Answer 3

I have a mother that is the same way.  It could be a multiple of reasons why your mother is saying those things.  I just got up the nerve last month to ask my mother why she was saying all those things.  My mother told me it was because she didn't want me to look like her because she is a little big.  Try asking your mom your self if you can.  I understand that it can be hard to talk to parents and I don't think parents should be talking to there children that way.  Just trust your own judgement and if you don't think that you have gained any wait then you know you haven't.  I hope I helped you out a bit.

Answer 4

Tell her how you feel.

Answer 5

tel her to f off and stop being a b***h

no mother should say stuff like that to there child even if it was true

she should love you how you are

Answer 6

most mothers are like that

Answer 7

Ask your doctor what a healthy weight for you is for your hight and shape. DOn't listen to them. Thats really sad that she'd going to do that.

Answer 8

Mothers are only there to make our lives terrible. Just try to ignore it and know that you aren't fat. Be happy in your own skin! These days... so much pressure is put on being super skinny. Personally... I do not think anything is wrong with having curves! Just try hard not to say anything that will make your mom say even worse things back to you.

Answer 9

is SHE overweight or out of shape?  does she have health problems that limit her abilities to stay in shape?  is she really negative about herself, too?  from what you've said, she's either:

A] jealous of your good looks

B] insecure about herself

C] a really bad mom!

i choose B.  if no one else agrees, and your doctor hasn't mentioned it, it must be a personal conflict with herself.  she's trying to make herself feel better.  unfortunately, it's making YOU feel terrible!!!

ask her gently what's going on, and why she's making the comments.  maybe y'all can figure it out together!  :]

Answer 10

Maybe her mother treated her like this and she is treating her children like that.

I'm sorry you mom is doing this to you, all young girls should be told their beautiful no matter what!

Just tell her how you feel and that your hurt by the way she is treating you.

Answer 11

maybe she really has a problem and shes just trying to make you feel insecure, or maybe she is the one who put on the weight, or your weight is shifting from one place to another

Answer 12

People are funny about weight and what is and is not acceptable...  Talk with your mom and your dad and tell them that this hurts your feelings and makes you feel self conscious...  Ask your dad his opinion - get everything out in the open.  Try to remember that parents are not perfect either, and they love you and are concerned for you and maybe they just don't realize that they are hurting your feelings so much!!!  Talk with them and maybe you can help them find a better way to communicate their concerns.  Then tell them that you are aware of your weight, and explain what you do to keep it under control.  This will show them that you HAVE been hearing what your mom has been saying and maybe it will make her ease up a little...  If she doesn't think you are taking her seriously, she may be pushing you over something that isn't even an issue...  So talk with your parents - sometimes communication is the key...  Good luck!