Mother in law trouble

Question

I have a mother in law whose opinions are much different then mine when it comes to parenting. She has three children, none of whome she had vaccinated. She is very into the "chiropractic field", as far as no immunizations, no doctors, everything natural. My mother is a nurse, so I was raised on the opposing side. My siblings and I all have our immunizations, have never been to a chiroprator (there has been no need) and are okay with taking tylenol if if means taking away a headache.

My mother in law has a strong history of taking action when she opposes things. She has that "I am always right, never wrong, you are always wrong" attitude. She has on numerous occasions tried to take my 6 month old into her chiropractors office for an adjustment, even though she knows I STRONGLY oppose such a thing.

So heres the question...

Next March my husband and I are going on a 10 day cruise, and my daughter is staying with my mother in law and her family. My sister in law works at a hospital, and is much more in the middle of the battle as opposed to on a specific side. (She however does not think its okay to have a baby "adjusted" without a reason)

So, I want to leave my sister in law in charge of making medical decisions for my daughter instead of my mother in law while we are gone.

Is this rude of me, or is this just me being a parent and protecting my child in the way that I feel best?

Answer 1

YOU are the mom, it's your decision, make it, and stick to it*

Answer 2

not at all, your child, your way.

if she has a proplem with it, ask how she would feel if ou gave her child tylnol for a headache, its her choce for her children and yours four your own, just make sure that she isisnt in control, and explain that exact thing how would you feel if i disobeyed how you wanted your children treated, best of luck enjoy your cruise!

Answer 3

you are the babes mother at the end of the day, and I'm afraid whilst your mother in law has her own strong opinions its down to you at the end of the day how you see fit to bring up your own child, hopefully you have the full backing of your husband as its his mother that's trying to take over,

you need to make it perfectly clear to her before you go away what your wishes are concerning any medical treatment that your child may need, tell her that you trust her to be responsible in this way or you would have left your child maybe with your parents, tell her that you respect her beliefs but she needs to respect yours, good luck

Answer 4

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, when it comes to your children you have the final word.  If you don't feel comfortable that a person will respect your wishes when it comes to how you raise your children, then don't leave your children in their care.  

Good luck!