Mother of three boys. Tired and Cranky...help?

Question

Okay I have three little boys 5, 3, and 1. I love them dearly. I feel like they fight, yell and argue all of the time. I know it's normal at this age, but I feel like I am always grumpy. Am I the only one who feels this way. Sometimes I feel like a horrible mother, and I swear I will be better tomorrow, but what if I am scarring my children for life by yelling all of the time.

Anyone else in my shoes? What do you do to stay sane. Thanks!

Answer 1

well im not in ur shoes im only 17 but try takn to um  in a getntle but firm voice and use the give and take  

Answer 2

I feel for you - I have friends who have boys around those ages, and I know it's tough. I have a 4 year old son, and a 1 year old daughter, so I'm not in your shoes, but I know how I feel at the end of the day with them, so I can only imagine how you feel. I wouldn't say your a bad mom - I have days myself that I feel that way, and where I feel like all I do is yell too. It's tough. I'm wondering if you ever get the chance to get out? I don't to often myself either, but I'm realising when I do it helps alot - mostly having a 'girls' night out. Even just going for a long dinner. Talking with adults helps. Just being away from the responsibility for awhile. I also have a friend with 3 kids who works part time as a waitress just to get away from the chaos for awhile and make some extra spending money. She treats herself to a massage once a month, and nails done occasionally and the sort. I would start with getting a massage, even just once a month - it will help a little. And one day they will all be in school, older, and a little easier to deal with, though I don't think the fighting ever ends.  Hang in there - Motherhood is not easy.  

Answer 3

Mine aren't even that close together, and I feel really overwhelmed sometimes.  You are NOT the only one.

What I try is using more positive reinforcement, trying not to sweat the small stuff, and remind myself daily that this age will pass. Just try to lower your voice more (I think of Coneheads and the "Maintain Low Tones!" bit to make it easier to not take everything so seriously) and try to get some time away to pursue some non- Mommy stuff.

Hang in there, and love them anyway.