trying to make this story short_I will get to the point.
My husband and I sat down with my mother and told her that since we was going to be watching our son for the week off of school, that we would like for to call us when she was going to go somewhere with him. In case of an emergancy, we would have the last known location of where they would/could be. (There has been problems with my mom before in the department of letting go since I am an only child_and her not listening to things that my husband and I have talked to her about before) Anyways, she ends up going to another place after the one that she had told us about, she didn't say anything until she was on her way back from the 2nd place that she never spoke to us about going to until after the fact. And she was late getting back, when we have talkd to her before about getting back when we get home from work so that way we can spend some time with our son as well.
She didn't feel that it was a problem, and felt that calling after the fact was enough. She felt that anything along the way back from the original destination was a package deal, so instead of calling us and letting us know and communicating things to us, she went and did her own thing.
I had a long talk with her again, knowing that she was not getting my point, I had to lay down the law. I am his mother and if his parents say something I feel that it should be followed and respected, because he is our responsibility.
I feel like she still does not look at us as adults or parents and does not take us seriously. I have been through so much with her. She is a great grandmother and for that and the fact that my son loves her, I do not want to take him away from her. But, at the same time how can I trust her to follow through with things that we have asked of her to do or follow if she has already broken our trust. I am at the point that I don't ever want to see her again.
What is the point that a parent knows that they cannot leave their child with the grandparents?
What is the point that a grown woman breaks away from her mother and calls it quits all together?
Does this ever happen or do you always work at because she is your mother?
I am confused, hurt, stressed, and worried about having a miscarriage with dealing with all of these situations with her, especially when she doesn't understand, or wants to try to understand!
Please help!
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