Mother said she will make sure i dont get anything if dad dies

Question

For some reason my mom dont like the fact that me and my dad is real close. Since i can recall it always was this way. Now that her and my dad are having problems in there marriage she think that he is going to leave me everything. Am 40 years old and always respect both my parents.When i was nine years old i relize that her first husband name is on my birth certificate and i also have his last name. I did ask bout it and she said back then she had to do it that way cause she was still married to him. Then the strangest thing took place. She went and had her first husband name removed off of my brother birth certificate but not mines. Can it be that me and her dont get a long cause she know he is not my dad and that we are very close. She always say that i dont matter cause if my dad was to past away i would'nt get nothing anyway. My dad have money and i know she married him for that reason. I never been married so my name is still the same.I do have two boys that is carrying her first husband last name also. I have ask for my dad to put his name down so his two grandsons can have his last name to keep his name going on in the family, but it never happen. I really think its because of my mom. She get upset even when he buys me or my boys a christmas gift. If she finds out that he help me in any kind of way she gets upset. I have distance myself from her cause out of six childern only me and my brother are my dads. She never talk to me about anything. Am the last one to know about anything that is going on with her. She talk to all my sisters and even my brother about everything. Am the only one left out.Even my sisters dont talk to me that much. They all go out as mother and daughters every weekend and never invite me. PLEASE HELP.

Answer 1

If you're sure he's you're dad I would talk to him about your issues.  Find out exactly where he stands.

If it's warranted after that conversation, then go with him to speak to your mother.

Whatever you do, if she really is being a caddy and petty as you're saying, make sure you don't drop down to her level or you'll be just as bad.

Answer 2

This is what Tori Spelling went through.

Answer 3

Shut up.

Answer 4

if it in the will, it's legal, that's it.   She can bit*h till she's blue in the face, but the courts don't care.

Second, if the relationship is there, discuss this with your dad.   He's your father, he'll understand your concern.

Protect yourself....no one else will.

Answer 5

If your Dad leaves you something in his Will, there's nothing your Mother can do about it.  You might ask your Dad if he has a will and could you get a copy of it because you're afraid the Mother may try to alter it or say he didn't leave you anything.

Answer 6

Take him to Maury for a DNA test. How much money are we talking here because I don't know any millionaires rushing out to marry a lady with so many kids and it doesn't look like he invested at all in the education of his children.  

Answer 7

That is the saddest thing I've read on here so far! Your (mother) if you can call her that, sounds like a selfish, low life gold digger. She should be proud to have a man that was willing to love someone elses child because its rare in men, I would tell your Dad that you need to have a heart felt talk with him and that you need honest answers. Ask him why your Mom seems to hate you and your brother so much, or better yet ask her but I doubt that you will get a straight answer from her.

Answer 8

sorry to say it but your a little too old to be stressing about some people that want to act like little kids.. stop busting your brain trying to figure out why your mother treats you the way she does. it can be a totally different story compared to what she's telling you. cheer up and live life, don't let other people's ignorance bring you down

Answer 9

Are you sure he is your biological dad.  Even so I don't think if you mom and dad are not together she can tell you dad where to put his money.  If they are together then that is a little trickier.  This is why they make wills together or not together you dad can make a will and make sure the money goes where he want it to go...