Motherly instincts kicking in?

Question

I'm newly happily married and lately for some reason, I have a strong desire to be a mother!! It's always been there but now it is stronger than ever. Have any of you experienced this same thing? My goal is to wait at least 5 years until we are completely stable career wise. Is there any advice you could give me to allow me to be patient for such a beautiful blessing, because we definitely don't need to get pregnant...right now!

I'm sure this is a very unique question...but I appreciate all of your sincere and thoughtful advice.

Thank you!!

Answer 1

I definitely  feel you in this one. The baby fever comes when you least expect it and you always have a list of why and why nots. I have a 3 year old who is the best thing ever and I want more but I know its not the right time but that still does not stop me from looking at the baby outfits and wistfully watching someone with their newborn. It is always funny to me when people say I have to get everything in order before i become a parent , it is sensible but sometimes I think why bother? things are never quite the way you want them .... but career wise yes it should be stable as does your relationship. the only thing i can suggest to be patient is to live each day to the fullest , take one day at a time and think about what a stable environment you will be bringing your child into. Plan things out but be aware your plans will change. Also if you decide you really want to start trying just do it... in the long run waiting would probably not have made much difference anyway!!

Answer 2

Visit your friends with babies and ask if they want a break---offer to babysit overnight especially.

  As great as kids are, they are nerve-wracking too. A sleepless night or two might change your mind.

Answer 3

The best advice is DON'T WAIT!

Life is short... and you'll never be financially ready to have a child.  

If you believe 100% that children are a blessing (from God) then you would let him deliver one to you according to his will.  

Also remember, that just because 5 years has gone by and now all of a sudden you want a baby, it doesn't mean you'll get one.  What if it takes you 2 years to conceive, what if the fact that you're 5 years old hinders your ability to have a baby?