Mothers, please help me understand my mother?

Question

I am 13 (i just turned 13 2 weeks ago) and since I was 11 I have wanted a second cartilage piercing. But whenever I ask my mom, she says "When you turn 17." By the time I am 17, I'll be asking for a navel piercing! And my baby cousin has 2 holes and she is only 2! So why cant a 13 year old get her second hole done. And it isn't like it is going to change my life (like a tattoo or something like that) But maybe it is just me. Mothers (and other people on Y! Answers) please help me understand why my mom feels this way. thank you for every single answer (even negative ones)

Answer 1

I'm 15(16 soon) and I cant get my cartilage done yet

its just their rules if you moan and complain it ll show your immature and shouldn't get one

just be happy your mom cares

Answer 2

What is there to understand? She's your mother and, for now, what she says goes. It has nothing to do with your cousin, your mother isn't HER mother. It's probably "the older, the better" policy. Have you actually sat down and discussed this with your mother? Or have you just whined about it to her?

Answer 3

You have to remember that your mother knows you best. And you should be thankful that she let you get your first piercing! I say you just wait a couple of years (I know it sounds hard) and then see if she will let you get one. Just try and understand your mother, she knows more than you think. Maybe one day you will thank her.  :] hope this helps

Answer 4

Unfortunaly our parents make rules and we have to follow them. I was allowed to pierce my ears and that was it. My best friend had her tongue pierced at 16 and i wanted it too but no way was my mom letting me, our house rule was "when you move out do whatever" i turned 18 while living with my mom but still had to respect her rule. I did get my tongue pierced right after i moved out. Now i have it and it make no difference WHEN i got it. My point is that right now it sucks you cant have it done, but just respect your mom and wait and you will be allowed to get it done, and once its done you wont even care you had to wait and that will seem like such  a petty thing...

Answer 5

Bottom line-she's your mom, and until you're 18, it's up to her. I know it sucks. I couldn't even get my first cartilage piercing til I was 16. I also wanted my nose pierced at the same time, so she compromised with a navel piercing. When I was 19 and moved out, I got my tongue pierced as well. I'm 21 now and the only ones I wear are in my ears. Everything else I let close up. It really wasn't worth aruging with my mom over for all those years cause I didn't even end up keeping them.

Answer 6

ya i dont know my mom doesnt really care about ears i got my first cartlige done for the second time like a month ago and i said that i want my sec andshe said when mi other one heels up idk just try to talk to her and ask her why but not in a s****. way.

Answer 7

Because you are still a child and you are her responsibility.  She doesn't want to see you messing up or permanently scarring your body with things that you might think are a good idea when you are 13, but that you might come to regret when you are older.  Maybe she doesn't want her 13 year-old daughter walking around looking like a pincushion.

It doesn't matter how many holes your aunt puts in her daughter's head--she is not your mother.

Besides, cartilage piercings are not without risk.  You can cause damage to the cartilage, causing it to break and flop over, and you can end up permanently injuring your ear.  You're lucky that she even let you get the first one.

Just wait it out,and if you still have your heart set on another piercing when you are 17, 18, 21, or whatever, then that's up to you.  But in the meantime, respect your mother's opinion, and listen to her when she tells you "no."