Mothers depression.?

Question

my mother has been in and out of the hospital ever since i can remember. she was diagnosed with clinical depression when she was in her early 20's but a little after i was born when she was 37 her depression became a 2 year cycle. when shes well its like this depression thing doesnt even exist. but when shes sick sometimes she cant even remember my name. im basically her everything since my father has to make then money and my brother is on his own now. ive always wanted to be with her because i always worried about her. but now as bad as this sounds im tired of it. she doesnt want help anymore, and i dont want this to ruin my life. im 14 and going into my freshman year this sept. and all i want is for her to be well for that first day of school. does anyone know how i can convince her to get the help she needs??

Answer 1

If her depression is cyclic, she's probably bipolar, not just depressed. She may be receiving the wrong meds if she's only being treated for depression. Look some stuff up and ask her to discuss it with you, and with her doctor.

Let her know you are concerned and that you are trying to help her. That's all you CAN do. She has to choose for herself to do what it will take to make her better.

Answer 2

When dealing with a depressed mother, you have to be very careful.  They usually don't feel like anything is wrong with them on their good days, but once it gets really bad, they realize they NEED help, but refuse to get it.  I'm in a similar spot you are: my father is the breadwinner, while my mother doesn't work at all.  I also have been her primary source of comfort and reaching my breaking point with her "episodes".  All I can suggest is to hang in there.  Think about it: four more years and then you can finally be out of the house.  

Answer 3

She needs to seek for the Lord. The only one that can heal her completely is GOD. Let GOD take control....you should pray for her. Everything will turn out fine, just have faith.

Answer 4

i'm very sorry to hear about this. my mother is an alcoholic and she is very depressed also. she goes through cycles where she is binge drinking and depressed and then the next week she is completely fine so i know how you feel. my siblings and i have just recently told my dad about her (they are split up so he had no idea). It really helped us out by telling him.. so i would most definitely recommend that you tell a trusted adult, if you already haven't. you may not be able to convince her though because she  has to want the help but it doesn't hurt to talk to her about it as much as you can.. try talking to her when she is not in one of her cycles, she may understand it more from your point of view. GOOD LUCK!