Moving Out..help (my mum is driving me nuts!!)?

Question

Female 18 uk

This is a really complicated situation basically I live at home with my mum (which i hate) I really want to move out is this possible? I would want my own place or even a bedsit and I would want to move to a different town a couple of miles away. I was talking to her about this and she said you can’t move out because i get benefits for you living with me, this is making me feel like I am only alive to pay her benefits (i hate it)

Answer 1

that is soo weird y is she getting benefits 4 u, ure over 18, that's really insulting wot she said i definatly think u shuld hav a talk with her and get things out in the open, mayb she might respect u for standing up 2 her.

Hope everything goes well

xSarax

Answer 2

You're 18, how can she still use you for benefits? Does you have you down as handicapped?

Go to the social welfare department and start making enquiries. It will be clear that you are not handicapped in any way, and that your mother has been defrauding the government. She'll be out of your hair fast enough then!

Answer 3

your mother is using you as a meal ticket and its all most emotional blackmail if you leave she will have to go to work like every one does you are not obligated to stay for that reason if I were you do what you have planed get some where of your own and start your own life, you are eighteen you can please your self  

Answer 4

You need to plan things, find somewhere you can move into, and obviously have the means to pay your rent, mortgage, council tax, food etc.

I'm not sure what kind of relationship you have with your mum, but obviously the reason she gave you for not moving out is not good, I assume she still gets child benefit for you, but you would still have to be in education for that.  You need to tell her that you want your own space, and show her you can be adult about this by having a plan which works.  

Explain your relationship with her is suffering, and she would only be getting the money for another year or so anyway if you stayed, after which time your relationship could have broken down altogether.

If that fails, then just go ahead with your plan and move, she will survive this.  You are classed as an adult now, and can move away from home if you wish.

Get some support if you can from friends, other family members if possible.  

Stay strong, good luck.

Answer 5

you can move out at 18 hopefully you may already know some ways of getting any help that may be owed to you cause of your age,i am 28 yes 28 and still at home with my mum and dad and desperatly want to get out as ther are many problems and issues,including the way they are about boyfriends,and my dad has a drink problem,i have benn in fulltime work since i was 19 and saved but to be honest am still finding it hard to beleive that i will cope on the money i get paid from work,so i would say if you really want to do it,get yourself organised,even talk to your local council,ask about speaking to someone regards housing for soemone having probs at home,are you working? if not you will need a job,get things you need,and trey to save as much as you can until you leave. Goodluck girl