Moving out at 18 to live with Fiance (long, need help!)?

Question

Do NOT lecture me on love or that I shouldn't have a fiance at 18.

10 Points to whoever helps me well.

I was seperated from the only girl I've ever been with that ever made me feel this way. We are sure it is love, so please keep your comments to yourself and answer the blunt of the question.

It's been 2 months+ since we've been apart, and our love has done nothing but grow. I can't picture myself with her not in my life.

I love her family, every single member, as I am social with all of them and learned to love them on a personal basis, got to know them really well.

That being said, her uncle has decided to let me move in with him since he has a 4 bedroom house and a free room for me. Everything is paid for (No rent, food, electric all that is paid already). He has agreed for me to roomate with him, of course, I will be completly obligated to pay for my utilitize as I am no loaner.

I will be turning 18 in December (the legal tender age of adulthood), I don't not think my age makes me superman. It does not. Legal however, it gives me the right to move out on my own without my parents deciding. As I am sure they will help me every now and then, I do not need them to.

Right now I am scrambling for a job, I've had 3 interview at 5 places I've applied. 0 for 3. Ouch. I'm still trying, I have around 4 months? 15/16 weeks. I'll get a part time job, if not a FULLTIME job (I pray for!) because I am homeschooled, so graduating (If I don't graduate by December, I'm homeschooled like I said. I have 22.5 credit out of 20, just need a half credit in a core class and a full credit in other cores, I am free to use their computer to finish, if I don't graduate by then)

I'm really worried, I'm moved from Florida (where I spent 17 years of my life, to Arizona and I don't like it at all omg! It's like living in satans buttcrack), I'm moving back to Arizona with her uncle, as stated. I'm just really worried. Not about our love tho, it's so strong and I'm so sure about it, and if anything 6 months apart is the greatest test of any relationship. I'm worried that I won't make enough for a car when I get there and I'll be hoofin' it to work everyday. What can I expect to make in the next 4ish months assuming I find a job. Wost case scenary (job wise) please.

I'm also VERY nervous about leaving, it's going to be hard, I love my family they love me, I have their support, I'm just so frightened to get in that cab and go. It's so nerve racking.

Can anyone give me some tips to keep in mind? Some good psychological advice to man myself so I stop killing myself with worry?

A placebo perhaps.

Winner gets 10 points! Haha, thanks so much for reading.

Please contact me via email if you want to really talk me through this, I will REALLY appreciate it!

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Thanks so much!

Answer 1

Worst case scenario: You fall flat on your face, join the US Armed Forces, marry the girl, serve your country proudly, go to college as part of your veteran's benefits, land a good job, and live happily ever after.

Ok, ok. The absolute worst case scenario is that you die in a car crash tomorrow.

You'll be all right.

Answer 2

don't do it.  you are too young to move in with some girl and get married.  

okay, i read it.  what exactly is your question?  is it about the job, or her, or school?  I'm not sure.  you're moving somewhere that you have no job (not smart), and you don't know ANYONE.  .

that being said, you stated a bunch of times that you are an adult, and in love, blah blah, etc.  welcome to the adult world!  you want to get married, move out, support a family, etc.  get to it!

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i read it, and told you what i think.  keep it short and sweet.  maybe you'll get more than one answer

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I think it would be a fun opportunity to move far far away from everything you ever knew and try something different. It would really test you and make you stronger. The nice thing about AZ is that other than heat, which you get used to, you don't have to worry about extreme weather. If you can move away from everything you love and know and make it out okay, than maybe you are mature enough to go ahead with marriage at this point. If you get away from it all and you give in to the urge to race home to safety then I'd say that that is a sign that you are not ready for the independence just yet. I got married at 18 and started a family off early and I can say that, while I wouldn't trade my boys for anything in the world, I know I could have made some better decisions.

Answer 5

Well, my question to you is are you sure if this is what you want to do?

It seems to me that your reason for moving is be closer to the love of your life. Which is totally fine.

Why don't you go to college over in Arizona and work part-time. Yea it'll be hard but once you graduate you'll be a better prospect for well... better paying jobs.

I think if that's what you think you should do then JUST DO IT!!! like NIKE says.

What exactly do you have to lose. If things does not work out, you can always move back home right?

So just go for it, you only have on life to live so just make the best out of it.

GL