Much respect to Army wives

Question

i love my boyfriend to death and we're obviously going to be together for a very long time if not marriage but he's in the air force and he's only been gone for a month. How do you do it when he's gone for like..6 months or more at a time? How can you stand it?

Answer 1

Stay active and busy it helps the time go by faster. Learn something new or volunteer it takes your mind off your pain, and when you help others it makes you feel good. Right letters and put together care packages it will mean a lot to him and you. Trust me old fassioned letters that he can hold and smell are so much better than e-mails. Last surround your self with good positive friends who can support you. Don't hang with life suckers you know those people that are so needy and suck the life out of you. You will find out how strong you are deployments are the trial by fire that military wives walk through. You either come out tougher or melted. I know you will do well and grow a lot through this experiance.  

Answer 2

You just have to be strong.

It is so hard but you learn to live with it.

I can't stand it.

I don't know how I do it.

Much love.

Answer 3

it is tough my motto is dont make it any harder than it already is I keep my self busy I work part time jobs volunteer go to school decorate my home and learn how to be a  good cook and i stay in shape I go to the gym daily and play with my dog razz a dachshound.  I keep to myself alot I have a coupld of good freinds but I stay out of the drama that sometimes occurs.  I live one day at a time an i never think about what could happen and I try to stay away from the news it can be upsetting at times



***The Military Wife*** (My Favorite)

The good Lord was creating a model for military wives and was into his sixth day of overtime when an angel appeared. She said, "Lord, you seem to be having a lot of trouble with this one. What's wrong with the standard model?"

The lord replied, "Have you seen the specs on this order? She has to be completely independent, possess the qualities of both father and mother, be a perfect hostess to four or 40 with an hour's notice, run on black coffee, handle every emergency imaginable without a manual, be able to carry on cheerfully even if she is pregnant and has the flu, and be willing to move to a new location 10 times in 17 years. And, oh, yes, she must have six pairs of hands."

The angel shook her head. "Six pairs of hands." The Lord continued, "Don't worry, we will make other military wives to help her. And we will give her an unusually strong heart so it can swell with pride in her husband's achievements, sustain the pain of separations, beat soundly when it is overworked and tired, and be large enough to say 'I understand' when she doesn't and say 'I love you' regardless."

"Lord," said the angel, touching his arm gently, "go to bed and get some rest. You can finish this tomorrow."

"I can't stop now," said the Lord. "I am so close to creating something unique. Already this model heals herself when she is sick, can put up six unexpected guests for the weekend, wave goodbye to her husband from a pier, a runway, or a depot, and understand why it's important that he leave."

The angel circled the model of the military wife, looked at it closely and sighed. "It looks fine, but it's too soft."

"She might look soft," replied the Lord, "but she has the strength of a lion. You would not believe what she can endure."

Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek of the Lord's creation. "There's a leak," she announced. "Something is wrong with the construction, I am not surprised that it has cracked. You are trying to put too much on this model."

The Lord appeared offended at the angel's lack of confidence, "What you see is not a leak." he said, "It's a tear."

"A tear? What is it there for?" asked the angel. The Lord replied, "It's for joy, sadness, pain, disappointment, loneliness, pride and a dedication to all the values that she and her husband hold dear."

"You are a genius!" exclaimed the angel. The Lord looked puzzled and replied, "I didn't put it there."

Answer 4

Like others have said....we just do. No idea how, other than I LOVE my husband more than ANYTHING, and I support him no matter what. So if that means I wait patiently (not really patiently but it sounded good) for him to come home from a deployment, then I do. But we do everything in our power to make it easier on each other. My messenger is ALWAYS logged in (on my cell phone too so he can reach me on yahoo no matter where I go), he can call anytime day or night, and I send a care package every week, and he sends gifts every once in a while. THAT is how we have made it through 2 deployments, and on our 3rd now. We talk almost every day, but more importantly, we communicate. He cant wait to log on to talk to me, and I cant wait to hear that special emoticon to let me know that is him IMming me and not someone else. You would think we were honeymooners, but we genuinely LOVE each other that much, and when you love each other unconditionally and support one another, it works.

So, I guess I do know how we do it. ^ ^ ^ that is how WE do it, and it works....we come out the other end a stronger, closer couple than we were before the deployment. I love our life and wouldnt change a thing.

Answer 5

It's one of the hardest things to do.

STAY BUSY AND STAY STRONG!!!

Answer 6

I'm not an Army Wife, my husband is a Marine. But I can give you advice based off of the two deployments he had while we were dating. The simple answer is, you just deal with it. There are ways to help the deployment go by smoother. I won't sugar coat anything, it will be one of the hardest things, if not THE hardest thing, you will ever go through in life, at least up until this point. But if you just don't allow yourself to dwell on it and sit at home and cry all the time, you will be completely okay. You find things to keep you occupied, whether it's hanging out with friends, getting an extra job just to keep you busy, or taking extra college classes. Whatever it may be. My advice is that you shouldn't just sit at home and think about him all the time. That will drive you crazy, and it will drive HIM crazy.

The reason why I said the simple answer is to just deal with it, is because if you think about it you really only have two options - deal with it or don't deal with it and break up with him. I am pretty sure you don't want to leave him just because he is deploying, so you just brace yourself and remind yourself that you ARE strong and you CAN get through this. You will realize you are a lot stronger than you ever thought you were.

One last thing is just look on Yahoo Groups or MSN Groups for a support group for Air Force girlfriends. When my husband was deployed, we weren't married yet but I found a GREAT support group on Yahoo for Marine wives and girlfriends. That was in 2004 and I am still active in that group and I've made many friendships that will last a lifetime. It helps to be able to communicate regularly with other girls who understand what you are going through.

Good luck!