Mum committed suicide i found her, will i get over this?

Question

June 2002 my partners mum committed suicide and it was my partner who found her.

My partner was 18 at the time, and has found it very hard to live with.

She has suffered with depression ever since, but is now 3 months pregnant with her second so has had to stop taking the medication.

Will life get easier for my partner as she is finding it harder to deal with as the years go on?

Answer 1

She's no doubt changed by it for the rest of her life - the question is to what extent and whether that extent will continue to take away so much of her joy in life.  I honestly have no idea.  Because I know that depression can run in families and if her mother had it, perhaps on some level she has it or is more sensitive to it than some others in which case she may find it harder to find peace in her mind.  Time is a great healer and new babies bring their own healing too, even if pregnancy can be a really tough time.  There are meds she can safely take while pregnant and perhaps that's something you both want to look into?  Counseling imho is only as good as the counselor's relationship with you but there are bereavement support groups which might help instead?  I suspect she's probably also very afraid that she actually does have depression for the rest of her life and that stress must be enormous so I really do think a group might help.

Answer 2

It might help to talk with a therapist if it's getting harder. Look into that it might really help to get everything out for her. Its definetly not good if things are getting harder, she doesn't want to be on the same track as her mother. Also try going to church it really helps me.

Answer 3

i wouldn't think this would be something a person would get over without professional help.  i hope you will strongly urge your partner to seek the help of a professional.  

Answer 4

in April of 1991 my boyfriend committed suicide. It was hard on me because I didn't understand why he did it. It get a  little easier but, with it being her mom it might be harder . Just love her and help her through it. I didn't have anyone to help me. Just make sure she knows that it's not her fault and that things happen that we can't con-troll or understand. I hope she gets better. Good Luck! I'll Pray For Your Family!