Mums would you be offended?

Question

Say if you have a toddler and you were at a playgroup or play center and i was there with my toddler and your toddler hit or snatched a toy from mine, would you be offended if i told them right from wrong in a toddler way (appropriate) not nasty??

Answer 1

i personally would not be offended. but, alot of parents prefer to do the disciplining themselves. if someone said something in a nasty way to my child or touched them in anyway, i would definitely say something. it sounds like this person is the type that thinks her children do no wrong. she will have her hands full some day.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with saying "No, sweetie.  Please don't do that, you need to share with your friend"  or something along that line.

Answer 3

well, i wouldn't but otherswould be because some parents don't like when other parents try to raise their kids for them especially when they are right in front of you. if the other parents ignored what their kids did then maybe you should have kind of stepped in then but otherwise i would have just let the other parent handle it

Answer 4

I would be glad you did it.

Answer 5

Offended, not so much but I do feel it is my job and my job alone to discipline my child. I would not appreciate another parent, especially one I didn't know doing it. I would rather you come to me and tell me what happened and let me handle it. If I was in your situation I would probably say something to the other parent and if they won't talk to their child I would find someone else for my kid to play with. I however agree with you that people don't discipline their children nowadays.

Answer 6

No I personally would not. However many Mom's would object- why I don't know. My children were brats on occasion and my grandkids are also. They have done things like that and sometimes we depend on the adults around us to help monitor the children so we should not get upset at another adult appropriately chastizing our kids.

Answer 7

Nope, wouldn't bother me.  If I'm not there to correct my child I would be glad if someone else did it (in a nice way, of course)

Answer 8

No, I wouldn't get offended.  It shouldn't even get to the point where you had to say anything - if the mother was watching her child, she should've stepped in first.  But either way, no, I don't think that is a big deal.

Answer 9

I would join you in disciplining my child.

Answer 10

i wouldnt be offended if you did it in a nice way like you said ...

Answer 11

Ummm disiplining other ppl's children can get nasty no matter how nice you think you are. Heres what I would do:

first time try to write it off as age and normal kid activity, just make sure your child is ok

second I would just casually say no no thats not nice

third I would mention it tot he mom but in a non chalaunt way, you don't wanna seem like  whinner

Fourth I'd say OK YOU CANNOT DO THAT IT IS NOT VERY NICE, YOU HAVE TO BE NICE WHEN PLAYING WITH OTHERS!

If the mom didn't like it well your prob. going to loose a friend if she was your friend in the first place otherwise........who cares what she thinks, you probably just stood up and did what everyone else secretly wanted to do if the kid was a monster.



But don't be nit picky and look ffor resasons to displine, just let them have normal interaction if no one is being hurt, let them try to figure it out if possible, they cannot learn if you always jump in.

Basically pick your battles, don't be to mean but don't be affraid to be assertive!!!

Answer 12

No way! As long as you were doing it nicely then I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. I'd do the same thing if the tables were turned.

Answer 13

If we were at a playgroup, I would probally be right there, and I would probally tell my child that is not how we are suppose to be.  Now, lets say I wasn't right there - and you nicely in an appropriate way told my child no, thats not nice and let me know about it - I would first apologize to you for my child's wrong behavior, make my child apologize to your child, and thank you for telling me.  Some parents get offended or say kids will be kids.  If you don't teach them right from wrong, then they don't know.  And as long as you didn't spank them, and just appropriatley told them thats not nice or we don't play that way - that's acceptable.

Answer 14

in our mums group we had the agreement that whoever was closest could deal with it as long as it was not in an abusive way

Answer 15

It really bothers me when other parents try to discipline children that aren't theirs.  I am the parent.  I would rather be made aware of the situation so that I could deal with it myself.  Children, especially toddlers, will do that type of thing, and it's up to the parents to teach them how to share, not other people.  If someone tells me what my child has done, I take it seriously and discipline my child the way I have deemed appropriate.

Answer 16

no i wudnt be offended if you said it in the right way, ie not nastily. i think kids do need to be told or they wont learn. it annoys me when parents dont tell their kids not to do things like that. i always tell mine the second they do it. they have to learn. i dont think many mums wud be offended so long as you went about it in the right way.

Answer 17

I wouldn't really be offended, but I guess every mom (I'm not one yet) would feel slightly put off, regardless of how you said it.  But, you should say something rather than have someone's beastly child bullying your baby.

Answer 18

I would not be offended if you did it in a nice way. If you said, "Sweetie, its not nice to take a toy away from another person", then I would not be offended. If you said, "DON'T TAKE TOYS AWAY FROM OTHER PEOPLE!" then yes, I would be offended. Either way, I would approach the parent and let them know what their child did. They may or may not be appreciative of it, but at least they are aware for a future time when they may not be so defensive or closed-minded.

Answer 19

yes its my job to tell my child off so i'd be wanting to hit you lol

I don't care how many thumbs down i get i'm being honest and i'd be offended. i have thought about this question alot and i would be offended, i understand the askers point about teaching her child not to take that kind of thing from others and its a good point and i do think i'm wrong for taking offence to it but i would.

Answer 20

no kids cant just be let to run wild they need to be taught right from wrong. It was right for you or whomever to correct the child

Answer 21

No, I would be so relieved that there was a parent who actually tells their child no and disciplines.

Answer 22

I wouldn't be offended - you don't always see what your kid does even if they're right in front of you!!  : )  Kids shouldn't get away with something like that just because mummy didn't see it.

Answer 23

personally i wouldn't be, but some parents get offended. in their view it's like you are stepping in and parenting their child.