Music problem for wedding?

Question

My fiance only wants me to play 3 songs in spanish but yet,we're playing 10 -12 country songs for his family.The reason for him not wanting more spanish played is because his family cant understand it.Dont you think this is unfair?Like he doesnt care if my family doesnt have a good time.It really makes me mad that he thinks this way.

Answer 1

I can understand him not wanting too much Spanish music played, but maybe he can compromise a little more.. maybe play 5-6 spanish songs with his 10-12 country songs?  

If your family understands both Spanish and English, at least they don't have the language barrier his family does with the music.  Above all, you should be worried about the music for your family's sake.  It is about the two of you.  Can't you pick out songs you both love, rather than songs your families love?

Answer 2

So, I have this issue too... My fiance's family only speaks English... but my family is Portuguese... so, we have a 3 hour dancing reception, and My finace and I agreed that we play 5-10 Portuguese songs so my family mostly my grandparents, can enjoy the night to something they understand and can relate to. Not that they won't have a good time listening to our music, but you wouldn't have the same emotions and feelings if you didn't understand a song as if you did understand right? That's how I explained it to my Fiance' who feels that music is his life. Compromise and communiucation is key! It wouldn't be fair to be one sided! Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

How many times are you going to ask this question?  This is the 3rd time.  Have the DJ play equal amounts.. if he can't compromise then maybe you shouldn't be marrying him.

Answer 4

Does your family only speak Spanish? If they know English, then I agree with your husband... find English songs your Spanish family enjoys...

Answer 5

I can see how this might be a problem, I've ran into something similar. I'm getting married to an Australian and she wants to play songs from Australia. However, we are worried that if we play too many Australian songs, then people will start leaving because they won't know any of the music. But we do still want to play Australian songs. Music is a big part of both our lives and I'm sure it is a big part of yours. Your future husband should understand that. And he shouldn't worry about what people are going to think if you play songs in Spanish. So what if some of the people don't speak spanish, it's still music and can still be enjoyed. I can see how you and your family might be offended if they don't play as much spanish songs as country. But in the end, people shouldn't worry about what music is going to be at the wedding. Remember, they are there for you and your husband, to celebrate the rest of your lives together. I wish you luck and happiness.

Answer 6

they can still dance to it! i agree, i think it's unfair

Answer 7

I can understand him not wanting to play a bunch of songs his family doesn't understand, but it's also unfair to play a bunch of song your family can't understand either. I'd play a few more spanish ones (like 5-10) mixed in with the country ones, and look at a few artists like Selena and Ricky Martin who uses both languages.

Answer 8

I agree with the first poster...if they speak english fine and listen to some english music then I can see him not wanting a bunch of spanish.  Maybe you can compromise on 5 spanish songs (spread out throughout the night, not all at once) and maybe he can drop the number of country songs.  Talk to him (don't bring the anger though, I'd be mad too but it won't get you anywhere to start a huge argument).  See if he can give you at least 2 more songs.  I'm not sure if she is spanish or not (I think she was) Have you considered some Selena, her songs are pretty well known and some of them have both english and spanish.  I'm sure there are some other artists you can find like this too.

I'm a little surprised your husband to be doesn't have a bit more respect for your family's heritage (not saying he doesn't respect THEM, but maybe he doesn't understand how strong your link to your heritage is.)  I know mine didn't understand my strong link to my croatian heritage for the longest time.  I don't think he still fully understands it because he has nothing like that but he is accepting of it and tries his best.

Good luck hun!

EDIT: My cousin married a music manager/record label owner.  They had one of his new bands play, they did some covers we all new and loved but also played some of their own music (which no one knew).  It didn't matter, we all danced and had fun anyways.  So I don't think your family will LEAVE, but it seems there is a bigger issue (which I already mentioned).  Again...good luck hun!