Muslim guys ONLY. What's ur opinions on our chat!?! (long)

Question

Astughfirallah, I'm losing faith in you guys & my efforts.

him: Ive never noticed hijabi girls or looked at them in that way--ever! That's just weird.

me: =/

him: well, they don't want attention right? i learned a long time ago to never pursue a hijabi. that's what nonmuslims are for! some hijabis can be..well..

me: what...?

him: like i told one that her hair was showing before & she got all offended. i mean, it's not like i was checking her hair out. if i wanted to check a girl's hair out i could just look around i was giving her respect

me: i don't think that's why she was offended. besides, doesn't it defeat the purpose to look at kafirs? i hate how muslim guys play with kafir girls in their teen yrs. while the muslim girls stay good. then when ur all tired out you come to the muslim girls who have been neglected & disregarded all along. offensive much? u guys are so quick to pick out a fault in the muslim girl, in the guise of benevolence and sincere concern, when it's really just a facade u put up with muslim girls. but when it comes to kafirs, you'd never dare to offend them.

Answer 1

That just proves the point of wearing hijabs :P! It shows that you are modest and others don't look at you in a disrespectful way like in your case. Masha Allah, you wear a hijab and you should be proud of it. We are doing what we do for the sake of Allah at all times. Personally, I'm a teenager myself and alhumdulillah I am not like that looking at other woman (I fin that awkard lol). But the fact is that the #1 thing that excites men are women (heard from buyaan). So I guess it's our job to battle our nafs and hope for the best in the hereafter insha Allah. Maybe that's why I lower my gaze :P. I know that when one looks at another stranger and finds him/her attractive, yet they keep there gaze low and don't look back...their face shines with nur and is more beautiful than that of the stranger.

I notice that a lot of men look at other woman, but when their wives do....they get really angry. May Allah reward you foryour efforts insha Allah

Answer 2

lame

Answer 3

why do we have to be muslim?

racist.

Answer 4

"i hate how muslim guys play with kafir girls in their teen yrs. while the muslim girls stay good"

I totally agree.

It truly pisses me off.

Answer 5

I'm not a guy but That's so True!

Muslim guys always go with non muslim girls for just one thing only.

its ok if a guy does it but if  a girl does it she'll get her legs broken!

But them kinda Muslim guys i've noticed they do respect Muslim girls...(even though i don't wear a Hijab)They see us girls as sisters and they see the non Muslim girls as they're dirty little secret or their bit on the side.

And shut upp....that Sikh girl above me!!

what about all the Muslim men ur people killed during the partition of Pakistan and India?

Answer 6

gayyyyyyyy. dont make any sense. and its all stupid.

Muslims aren't supposed to be into opposite s*x until they're married. i thought you guys were all the goody goodys who just prayed and hated on other people and destroyed other peoples live just to make them join your religion group. and i know what im talking about. -coming from a Sikh,Indian girl, whose religion has suffered cause Muslims wanted all the Sikhs to be come Muslims or they will be killed AND were too.

anyways-stupid question. NEXTT!

Answer 7

Boys will be boys, get used to it.

Answer 8

Im not a guy but good on her! For speakin up like that!  

Answer 9

Hmmm-----I think that a chat you have had with someone should not be for view for all on the internet----the person you had this chat with will know who they are------for me personally, i think you could have asked the question without the actual chat that was had!

In relation to this----He's only giving an opinion from personal experience------not all men have this opinion-------

Not all Muslim guys play with kaffir girls!

Not all Muslim girls are good!

We are all human and we all make mistakes-------

I know some Muslim men who are absolutely terrific. They are respectful and kind. But you do have to realise men are visual creatures and at times it can be difficult to not think about women when there are so many who dress in a provocative manner (Which i have no opinion on)------I think he was being respectful not thinking of the Muslimah in this way-------Remember men and women are not equal psycologically, physically or emotionally------i personally think they have a far greater temptation to deal with-----due to the fact that they can be easily stimulated visually-----for a woman, stimulation tends to be more forthcoming from the physical-----

So i would tend to ask him to rem to lower his gaze and also to rem that Allah(SWT) sees all that he does and hears all that he says------you can offer advice, but it up to the individual whether they take it or not

Another thing you must remember------not all non-muslim girls play around------there are some who are very modest also and have respect for themselves-------i know, i was once a non-muslim woman-----so try to not label----but i think i know what you are 'trying' to say

Allah (SWT) will judge us all on our deeds and intentions, so i would not worry about it!

Answer 10

wth is up with the first 3 answerers lol

Answer 11

I'm surprised nobody in the chat said allah akbar