Muslim sister to propose to Muslim brother?

Question

I know this brother, and he's been hinting he likes me, should I ask him for marriage and how should I go about it? What would be the best way to approach him, and what should I say?

Answer 1

I think he should propose, as I would never propose to a guy even the king.

Bless:)

Answer 2

Asa lamu alaykum.

If I were you I would say to him: Would You like for me to marry you?

If he says "no", then say: Well do you have any single friends that I can meet?

Of course you two should be somewhere where it's nice and peacefully quiet.

Answer 3

If you think you should marry him, go for it ;)

The best way to approach to him would be fulla confidence and a respectable muslimah, however do take in consideration other factors as well like asking parents n stuff. Goodluck

Answer 4

Can you have a male relative ask his family?? Just wondering because that might be a good way.

Nichole

Answer 5

If no male relative is available then the governor/mayor of the town or the Imam Masjid will perform as your Wali. He will propose that guy from your side. As per teachings of authentic ahadiths.

"No marriage is valid without a wali." [related by Ahmed and others and deemed sound by Ahmed, Ibn Hajar and others]

The Prophet SAAWS said: "There is no marriage without the permission of a guardian." [Sunan of Abu Dawood 2080, Narrated Abu Musa]

If the woman does not have a male mahram relative, the Imam closest to her locality, of the same faith as her, becomes her wali, the hadith gives the answer.

"If they dispute, then the sultan (man in authority) is the wali of those who have no wali." [Dawud 2078, Narrated 'Aisha , also related by Tirmidhi and others. Tirmidhi said, this is a hasan Hadith. Ibn Majah and Imam Ahmad, Hadith number 1880; also in Salih al-Jaami', hadeeth number 7556.) Shaykh Al Albaanee declares it authentic in Saheeh Al Jaami' vol. 2, no. 7556.  ]

"A man is never alone with a woman except that shaitan will be the third." (Related by Ahmed and Tirmidhi)

Hope it answers the question.

Answer 6

i think if he was ready for marriage, he wouldn't hesitate to ask you.

anyway, i think you can ask him but better to let others instead of you.

may Allah (swt) grant a Mubarak marriage,,,

Answer 7

I don't think this is such a good idea. You can just hint back that you are available for marriage, but don't ask directly. Some men can get scared off in such situations.

Answer 8

Wow your first Muslim women I know that proposes. All the best anyway.

Atheist

Answer 9

wow, usually the man proposes.

Answer 10

Yes, you may make the move by hinting back to him to let him know that you're ready for marriage.

Answer 11

How long you dated him for?

Answer 12

WOW!!! You  brave to propose, normally the guy propose to the girl...but, after all it's the 21st century...

I salute you....Well done.You proved women can do what men do.

Good luck, and everything of the best...post some wedding pics on here hehe

May ALLAH protect us all...I.A.  

Answer 13

I don't  see why not. I would.

All the best, sister.

Answer 14

he's not your brother, like mahram you can get married to. so don't call him brother, rather your potential groom. just tell him you like him, keep it simple so that it sounds sincere.

Answer 15

There is nothing wrong, You may hint him that you are interested in him to marry. What he thinks about his future wife etc.

As you are a matured girl, no need of wali ( guardian). you yourself can be wali.

If need to talk with his family or somebody related to him then if you can get some family friends or imam of masjid makes easy.

Best way is open your mind and look for what is his response.

Answer 16

But don't call him brother, after marriage......lol

good luck.

Answer 17

i am available. what do you say?

Answer 18

Salam for you my dear sister.Yes you can propose your muslim guy to marry you if you have convinced that he is good for you as your leader in the planned family In the history of Muhammad pbuh he was proposed by Siti Hadijah his employer because she knew well that Muhammad was very trusted man. and had good behaviour The best way to approach and know him is indirectly through his best friend ..You can ask him whether he loves you or not seriously.If he answered yes to your question so you should propose him to come to your parents to tell them that you love each other and discuss with them when you will get married. You must know what is his behaviour,his hobby,his bad and good character etc.Especially you must consider whether you can accept his bad character if it can not be changed.Marriage is a way for accepting the shortcoming of each other because there is no perfect person..